It’s time to go deep and find out what needs to change with women’s empowerment coach Katie Oman
“I’m sending you love and light.” My heart sank. While I appreciate the sentiment behind the words, as well as the intentions from the sender, they can leave a hollow feeling in my heart. I have realised for some time that the way spirituality is being approached by many people isn’t actually meeting the demands of the world we live in. A world that is becoming ever more saturated with upheaval and chaos. What is needed is an overhaul that is more aligned with the times we live in.
Awaken to the soulful
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not here to criticise the whole industry. Since my own awakening in 2010, the knowledge and support I have been privy to has been priceless. It opened me up to the truth of all that I am, as well as connecting me to likeminded souls, for which I will always be deeply grateful. However, it is more important than ever that we address the elephant in the spiritual room: the fact that words aren’t enough anymore.
We all have incarnated at this time to help make a positive difference in this world. To heal, help and spread love wherever we can. Whilst the social media posts, books and even collective healing and meditations leave a powerful mark, it’s now time that we truly show up in a bigger way. That we are proactive. That we are the leaders out there on the front lines, inspiring those around us to step up too. We need to make spirituality an active and positive force. To actually be the change we want to see in this world.
Stand up for truth
That means activism. It means standing up for those who cannot stand up for themselves. To actively support causes and people who need our help. Spirituality is something that has become more mainstream in recent years, which is a wonderful thing. We should all have the freedom to explore all that we are and to connect to the core essence of ourselves. But the world needs us to shift the way we think about our spiritual practices now. To understand that our very existence is a spiritual practice, as are the things we do in our day-to-day lives. And, as such, there is a need now to make spirituality an active force of positive change. After all, actions always speak louder than words.
Align with emotion
There is another factor of the spiritual movement that needs addressing in this aspect too: spiritual bypassing. This is a term coined in 1984 by psychologist John Welwood. According to Welwood, spiritual bypassing is: “The use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings, unresolved wounds and developmental needs.” Spiritual bypassing can come in many forms, but there seems to be a focus in some areas of favouring certain emotions over others. ‘Love and light’ is a blessing to bestow on others, but when it gets twisted to remove people from their full range of emotions, then it becomes a problem. After all, we are spiritual beings having a human experience, with everything that brings with it. We all have a wide range of emotions as part of who we are, and emotions themselves are not a good or bad thing; they’re simply messages to pay attention to something. Equating some as good and aligned with ‘love and light’ while having other emotions portrayed as bad can make people feel as though there is something wrong with them.
Instead, we need to give just as much attention to the human aspect of who we are as the spiritual, and not to see one as preferable to the other. Yes, the world is a tough place right now, and sometimes we may all feel like ascending and escaping, but acceptance of all that we are will not only give us a greater sense of wholeness and peace, but it will also inspire others to the same for themselves. Because as wonderful as a positive mindset is, we need to also accept that it’s okay to not be okay, especially as toxic positivity can disconnect us from our empathy. And that is why we need to address the problem, lest spirituality take us away from our humanity.
Walk the talk
So don’t see anger as something that is of a lower vibration. Holding onto anger is when it can become a problem, but anger itself is a powerful energy that fires people up to make change. The perception and avoidance of anger in the spiritual community is doing nothing to help fight the injustices of the world or help to make real differences. If we truly mean to uphold love and light, then we need to action it.
The good news is that there is a growing shift in the collective. These issues are not new, for they have been on the fringes of the industry for some time. As we all move forward together into a future of continuous shifts and changes, so too will spiritual individuals feel the call to be a key part of the positive changes we all want to see in the world. It’s time to walk our talk and help lead both humanity and the planet to a brighter future for us all.
Follow the call of your soul. Be the change you want to see.
Make a positive difference
By choosing the kind of charities you’d like to support in your area, you can make a tangible difference. To do just that, go to charitychoice.co.uk. You can also look up these charities:
• Amnesty International, which runs an SMS Action Network called Pocket Protest, where more than 80,000 passionate people use their mobile phone to defend free speech and stand up for human rights. You can find out more and support causes by going to amnesty.org.uk/what-pocket-protest
• Clean Up UK is a charity that unites volunteers in cleaning up their communities and bringing people together. Find out more at cleanupuk.org.uk
• The Government has a legal duty to reduce the UK carbon emissions and help reduce global warming. It’s vital that we all ensure they keep on target with this. Go to wwf.org.uk/climate-promises/contact-your-mp. You can also find ways to reduce your own carbon footprint by going to makemesustainable.com
• Global Giving is a charity fundraising website that gives social entrepreneurs and non-profit organisations from anywhere in the world a chance to raise the money that they need to improve their communities. You can look through the site and help fund potentially world-changing projects or set up your own project and ask others to help you fund it at globalgiving.org. You can also lend money to low-income entrepreneurs around the world to help them grow their businesses by going to kiva.org/homepage-classic
Katie Oman is an author, women’s empowerment coach and psychic. She is the writer of several books, including Happiness: Make Your Soul Smile (£14.14, O Books) amazon.co.uk. For more, visit katieoman.co.uk