Learn about the mystery of svadisthana – the relationship chakra – and how it can help transform your love life with Hazel Sillver
Of the seven main energy centres of the body, known as the chakras, it’s the second that rules intimacy. Known as the sacral chakra, or svadisthana (also spelled svadhisthana, or swadhisthana), it’s concerned with the need to connect and blend with another, which is why it’s known as the ‘chakra of relationship’. Being ruled by the element of water, the second chakra is all about feelings and blending: our emotions and our ability to be intimate, both psychologically and energetically, determine sacral health. Of course, all these things come into play in a relationship. When we make love our energy bodies blend and there isn’t much that’s more emotionally charged than romance! How well we play out the relationship with our partner depends on the health of the sacral chakra. So let’s look at the ways we can put it back into balance.
SVADISTHANA – THE SACRAL CHAKRA
REGION: Lower abdomen and lower back
RULED BY: the Moon and water
COLOURS: Orange and silver
EXPRESSION: Sexuality, intimacy, leisure and creativity
DEPENDENT UPON: Emotion
UNBALANCED BY: Guilt, over-sensitivity and resentment
BALANCED BY: Self-containment
Svadisthana is the chakra of emotion and it’s our emotional reaction that determines how we interact with others. In Gustave Doré’s picture of Christ walking on water, he depicts him holding one finger upwards, pointing at the Divine. Because water represents emotion, we can view this as a message that when we allow the spirit to rule us, rather than the ego, we’re able to master emotion. Instead of reacting with fear, hate or rage, we can choose another response. Of course in order to do this we have to find our own spiritual connection, whether it’s prayer, yoga, meditation or another method. When we have that connection we often feel like we’re walking on water!
Svadisthana is also concerned with energy exchange. Sensitive individuals pick up on other people’s energies; they’re most prone to sacral chakra problems because they end up blending with everyone! Of course, when they’re in bed with someone they love, they’re often able to experience intense pleasure, but the downside is constant energetic interference on a day-to-day basis. A crowd, or contact with poor energy, can leave a sensitive person feeling flat. The solution is focus – sensitive people must learn to ignore external energies and focus on the unique vibration of their own being. This takes a lot of practice and we all have to find the method that suits us best. The sacral meditation below may help.
Anything creative will strengthen the sacral chakra, whether it’s putting fresh flowers on the table or composing a symphony. Everyone has their own level of creativity, which they must play out accordingly. Anything that’s an expression of you is an act of creativity, even if it’s just choosing to wear a pink scarf.
The kind of sex we have will affect the sacral chakra, putting it back into balance or blackening it. Etherically, sex is an exchange of energies, so it’s important to sleep with the right person. If there’s a lack of chemistry between partners, sex will weaken them, and if there’s a lot of chemistry, sex will be strengthening. Smell is often a good determiner of chemistry – if you don’t like someone’s smell, you probably don’t have a good connection.
Your Sacral tool kit!
There are many essential oils that can help rebalance the sacral chakra but the most powerful ones are ylang ylang and jasmine because these are oils of self-confidence, eroticism and union. Jasmine particularly puts us in touch with our higher self, allowing us to feel confident, which in turn allows us to be intimate.
If a sacral chakra imbalance relates to old childhood emotions such as guilt, then any orange stone (for example carnelian) will help. But if the issue is one of over-sensitivity to the environment or a fear of losing oneself in another person, then the crystal to go for is moonstone.
Any action that stimulates the hip and lower back area is great for the sacral chakra. So dances such as belly dance, salsa and other Latin dances are great.
The mystery of Svadisthana
The ultimate lesson of svadisthana is that our emotional state is determined by what we choose to blend with. The secret can be found in the name svadisthana, which in Sanskrit means ‘the dwelling place of the self’. It’s only when we’re self-contained that we can be intimate. When we’re self-contained, we get everything we need from the soul and its connection; i.e. from within. This isn’t to say we mustn’t receive, but rather that receiving then becomes a pleasure instead of a need. The sacral chakra is easily put out of sync because it’s where our emotional desires spring from; so many of us are ruled by a constant need for external things to satisfy us. ‘Look within’, teaches svadisthana, ‘for the soul is infinite and made of loving light’.
Sit quietly with eyes closed and visualise yourself in a group of people. Everyone has an aura of coloured light around them; each aura is the same size as everyone else’s, but entirely unique. Once you’ve observed this, begin to focus on your own energy field. Be aware not only of the appearance of it (for example it may be composed of sparkling white and pink light), but the feel of it – it should centre you so you feel complete. If you have any low self-esteem issues this could be a tricky meditation, so go easy. Begin by doing a couple of minutes and slowly build up to ten.