We all have days when work can be stressful and no matter how hard we try, it naturally impacts on the rest of our lives. So when difficult times hit, try using Hayleigh Wintermantle’s handy techniques to help reduce your stress and raise your energy levels.
Focus on what you can control
It’s not always easy to accept that you that you can’t control everything, but often you may find yourself wasting energy worrying about things that are ultimately out of your control. Letting go and relinquishing control can be hard, however in doing so you release the worry and create more space and energy to focus on the things that you can control.
So, for example, if you are worried about the final outcome of a project or proposal, ultimately you cannot control the outcome as the decision will be made by someone else. However, you can control the preparation that you do beforehand which will still influence the final decision. With that in mind, it’s much more effective to use your energy to focus on the preparation and delivery instead of worrying about the final outcome.
Focus on what you WANT
It’s easy to slip into negative thinking and talk about what you don’t want, such as wishing your relationship with your boss wasn’t so difficult or wishing you weren’t so afraid of saying no. Although your intent is positive, the difficulty with this type of language is that your brain only hears what you don’t want and so only has this to focus on.
When you hear yourself talking in this way, try switching to thinking about what you DO WANT and focusing on the positive outcome. So maybe you’d like a more effective or harmonious relationship with your boss or you’d like to feel confident pushing back on workload. This is particularly important when setting goals or objectives as your positive language will ensure that your action is focused in the right way.
See asking for help as a sign of strength
We’re often led to believe that asking for help is a negative; a sign that you can’t cope or that you aren’t capable. In fact, many people avoid asking for help at all costs and the result is usually that everything comes crashing down.
Success isn’t about being able to do everything single-handedly, it’s about utilising your own strengths and the resources available to you in order to achieve the outcome you desire. Everyone has their unique strength and noticing where others are stronger in certain fields, allows you to form greater, more successful, partnerships and teams. This is particularly important if you are a managee, as it’s a really positive way to help develop your colleagues.
Get comfortable with saying ‘no’
Saying ‘no’ can be difficult as you don’t want to let others down but often this can end up with you taking on more than you want or can handle. However, saying ‘no’ doesn’t have to mean ‘NEVER’ but simply ‘not right now’.
Next time someone asks you to do something or sets a deadline that isn’t really feasible for you, try proposing a different timeframe or offering to help with as much as you can do in the given time instead. This way you’re still helping but it’s an agreement between both of you. After all, they need your help so they need to be flexible as well! Think win:win-collaboration, not compromise.
Remember, work is only one part of your world
It’s easy to get swept up in your work and career, and many people tend to measure their success in life by their professional success. So when things become challenging at work it can have a domino effect and impact other areas of your life. That’s why it’s important to remember that your job does not represent the person you are or your success in life. It may be an important part, but it is still only one part.
So when things are difficult or you’re lacking satisfaction in your career, sometimes it helps to look to other areas of our life to balance things out and find success and satisfaction in other ways.
About the author
Hayley Wintermantle is a coach & career catalyst encouraging unsatisfied individuals to uncover more of who they are and want they want in order to carve the career path they desire. For more career support, to read her blog or connect with Hayley, visit her website where you can also download her free Soulful Career Action Plan.