It’s time to start looking on the bright side – and Tracey Ash has a solution to every gloomy problem
Negativity is a reality in our lives. Sometimes we can walk away from it and sometimes we can’t. We’ve all experienced situations when we have felt low or super-stressed, and those challenging times will, unfortunately, continue to happen – that’s life. It is impossible to take sanctuary in a retreat or take up pilates every week at the gym if money, time and family don’t permit. So how can we crush negativity without breaking the bank or impacting on our relationships? Here, we look at some common negative scenarios that have been transformed with very positive solutions …
“I constantly feel like a doormat! I’m always lending a shoulder to cry on or running around after other people. I feel I’m always being relied upon.”
Being taken for granted after one too many favours will get even the toughest of us down. It’s time to clear your mind and banish the negativity with positive practices.
– Learn to walk away from time wasters – question how important the favour you’re about to do is and prioritise.
– Don’t sacrifice your own happiness. If you’re not able to help out, don’t commit. Others have to accept that you have a life, too.
– Do things that make you feel good – take a bath, go on a spa break, start a new cookery course, etc. Start enjoying life.
– Make a list of things you love about yourself. Recite them daily when you look in the mirror to encourage self-love
“I never seem to have enough time! I have a to-do list that goes on forever and I never seem to get anything done.”
Meditation, just like most creative activities, is a wonderful way to ‘bend time’. With practice, it can help you achieve clarity and focus, and actually help you use the time you do have more productively.
How to meditate in four easy steps:
1 Find a comfortable place to sit with a mantra in mind.
2 Gently close your eyes and take slow, deep breaths.
3 Begin repeating your mantra silently to yourself without moving your tongue or lips. Do not try and stop your thoughts or clear your mind.
4 Stop repeating the mantra and slowly become aware of the world around you.
“I feel disconnected from the things and people that really matter in my life.”
It’s time to make a love pledge and focus on our relationships with the most important people of all.
– Do a small thing for your partner – cook them a meal, leave a love note in their lunchbox, or greet them at the door with a passionate kiss.
– Spend more time on the things that make you happy. Have more fun with friends, start dreaming about things you want to do and share your ideas so you are spreading and sharing the loving vibes.
“I’m always comparing myself to others rather than focusing on what I want to be.”
You need to embrace the power of self-love and what makes you unique.
– Write down what you love about yourself that makes you an individual – include characteristics, talents, traits and attributes
– Stop putting yourself down – focus on the positivity around you
– Keep learning and allow yourself to embrace changes so you become more aware of who you are
“I have a fear of moving forward due to past mistakes.”
Banish that negativity and charge up your energy system through good food, empowering actives and positive people.
– Listen to upbeat, motivational music with powerful lyrics
– Get exercising – great mood boosters include running, cycling and swimming due to the happy hormones they release through cardiovascular activity
– Keep a journal on your story today, in the here and now. Breathe and envision that tale changing positively. Write down your dreams and focus on achieving those goals
– Eat happy foods – sardines are very good for serotonin.
“I feel no-one listens to me.”
Take yourself away from distractions so you can meditate and focus on your inner wisdom. Once you have mastered this, others will take you more seriously.
– Focus on the flame of a candle or a mandala – centre yourself and find your inner voice by listening to conversations in your mind
– Notice any limiting thoughts that arise
– Question each one – where did the belief originate? Was it something you were told as a child? Kid yourself of the belief by replacing it with a positive one
– Kid yourself of the belief by replacing it with a positive one
“I find it hard to make that leap into the unknown.”
Learn to love and make loving the unknown your mantra!
– Try not to become fixated on failure if you try something new. Have faith and remember that the best we can do is our best
– Breaking the mold is the way forward if you feel you’re stuck in a boring routine. Repeat the affirmation: “I will love the unknown.”
– Think of the unknown as a chance to learn more about yourself and the outside world – you may find new skills you never knew you had, meet new people and have new experiences that are life-changing