Now you’ve taken our quiz, find out more about your result below:
You’re a really good friend and always offer a shoulder to cry on in times of need. You accept that your friend may not always be in a great mood, and that life can sometimes throw curve balls to throw plans off course. Luckily for your buddies, you’re flexible and understanding – important keys to all successful friendships! A good friendship is something rare and special. You are quite selective about the friends you make because you believe it is better to have one really good friend than lots of acquaintances. Once you have made close friends, you keep them for life and make sure you are always around when they need you. You are selfless and always put your friends before your own needs – but be mindful that this can sometimes backfire, and it is important that a friendship works both ways. You should be able to offload onto your friends in times of need, too for your overall well-being.
Across the miles mate
Once you become friends with someone, it is usually a close friendship. At the same time, you don’t like to stifle the relationship by placing too many constraints on it, and, while you frequently consider your friends’ needs, you often place your own above theirs. Distance and time spent away from friends doesn’t change how you feel about them. If anything, it reinforces your desire to see them again and means you look forward to their company even more. If you do have one flaw, it’s that you can sometimes let life take over and forget to keep in touch with your friends. While some may be understanding, bear in mind that sometimes this could be interpreted as not caring by others!
A little distant
You have been hurt and let down by others before, and find it difficult to trust as a result. You hold back from confiding in your friends, and prefer to keep things to yourself. That said, you love to mingle and have a laugh, and prefer to keep the relationship ‘happy’ at all times. This can be difficult when you contact your friends and they are not in a good mood – you don’t know how to react, and often try to change the subject and lift the mood. You’re a happy and positive person to have around, and your friends can always rely on you to cheer them up, but remember that a friendship needs to work both ways. You buddies need to know that they are valued as people to turn to when you need help. Start to open up and your friendships will flourish.
Pull your socks up!
There’s no other way to say it – you certainly need to work on how you interact with and treat your friends. You love independence, but remember that if a friendship ever seems like a chore for any reason and you are always hesitating to make contact, it isn’t a friendship at all. Take the following steps to revitalise your relationships with your best buddies: identify those who take more than they give, and leave you feeling worse, not better, about yourself. Then make an effort to spend 50 per cent less time with them, and perhaps bring their negativity to their attention. Go out of your way to engage with people who make you feel great and that you really like to spend time with. Also remember that actions go further than words. Put a date in the diary to catch up rather than simply saying it – even if it’s a month or two away. If you can’t spare the time for an entire day with your friend, spend 10 minutes on the phone or have a quick coffee over lunch, rather than reschedule. Make more time for them.