Find all your burning questions answered here by our experts, who recommend sound, crystals and affirmations to fall in love.
We’re all brimming with questions about love, especially with Valentine’s Day coming up. Our experts in many spiritual fields are on hand to help you gain some clarity, with many different types of soulful rituals and recommendations at the ready. Whatever shape your love life is in, read on to find out what you should be doing to bring true love into your life…
MANIFEST TRUE LOVE
GEM, wellness DJ and producer (gemrpm.com)
Q: I’ve been searching for a partner for so long now. Is there a way to manifest true love?
A: “It is my absolute belief that whatever we want to manifest we must feel into the frequency of that vision first. Love is no exception. To manifest true love we must be an equal vibrational match for it. We all know music is incredibly powerful, so why don’t we use that power more deliberately towards our goals? Play a high vibrational song that is produced in a miracle tone at 432Hz and set the intention to manifest love. Then your ability to achieve a higher vibration will increase and magnetise your ability to bring about what you desire.
“432Hz is said to be the beat of the earth. It is mathematically consistent with the patterns of the Universe: the Golden Ratio.
“So just by the simple act of listening to songs in that frequency, you are already connecting with a deeper power.
“When you add a strong intention to that frequency, that’s when true magic occurs. Armed with this knowledge I’ve created a track to unlock your dreams of love. MALIBU is produced in this wellness frequency and is designed to whisk you up into dreamy-good feelings and ease you into a state of bliss. What are you waiting for? Set your intention for love, play this track over at my website and conjure up your wildest dreams.”
MAKE HIM FALL FOR ME
Susie Smith, sound healer (aiyastarsounds.com)
Q: I have a crush on a guy at work. Do you have any spells or love potions to help him fall for me?
A: “We are in the Age of Heart Coherence — with our hearts in alignment with the wisdom of our soul we can manifest our desires, including our love matches. Drawing in a love match in this age means that perhaps this ‘crush’ isn’t the right one. But our heart is an intelligent source and always knows what is right for you.
“First, breathe deeply and release the thoughts and mental chatter. Connect into your heart chakra, clear and align using intention and breath. Ask your heart if this crush is the right love match for you? Listen and feel for the answer in your heart. If the answer comes to your mind rather than through your heart, perhaps he is not a true love match. It might be more of a fun match!
“To assist you in drawing in either a true love match, or one for a bit of fun, you can create a heart-centred crystal grid. I’ve chosen rose quartz and selenite for mine. In the middle, place a crystal representing your intention. As you place the crystals around to power your intention, bring sound and a mantra into play. Your mantra could be, “I bring forth a true love match with harmony into my life”. Try sound — ‘ahhhhh!’ ‘Ahhhh’ is the tone of the heart chakra. The resonance of ‘ahhh’ will intensify your manifestation.
“Often we are resistant to receiving love because past experiences have caused us blocks or heartache. Using sound and energy healing, I can assist in clearing the pathway to your heart.”
HEAL MY HEARTBREAK
Lisa Melbourne, clinical aroma-reflexologist and spiritual coach (lisamelbourne.com)
Q: I separated from my partner five years ago. It was a painful divorce and I’m still recovering from the heartbreak. Can you help?
A: “When it comes to emotional support, I reach for my favourite piece of rose quartz crystal and my essential oils to help balance and support my energies. Here is the recipe for my self-love rollerball blend. You will need one drop each of lavender, rose, neroli and mandarin pure essential oils to add to a 10ml rollerball. First, fill the rollerball halfway with a carrier oil such as sunflower, which is light and absorbs into the skin quickly. Add each of the essential oils and fill to the top with more sunflower oil. Secure the ball and lid and shake to mix.
“Now find a quiet spot to lie down after applying the blend to both wrists and the centre of your chest. Place the rose quartz over your heart, take some deep breaths and imagine that you are breathing in the soft, pink and loving energy of the crystal and the essential oils. Breathe in love and breathe out the hurt and the heartbreak. Let it all flow unhindered out of you and allow yourself to let go of it all.
“Use this ritual as often as needed and with a mantra such as, ‘I am ready to let go of old hurt and pain and I am grateful for the lessons it has taught me. I am ready to move on.'”
FEEL WORTHY OF LOVE
Jai Koo-Ven, Female empowerment coach (jaikooven.co.uk)
Q: I worry about how I look and whether I’m pretty enough to attract love. Can you help boost my self-love and curb my vanity?
A: “Setting yourself goals for self-confidence is key as it will help you change the way you see yourself. What you think is what you’ll feel, so if you think you are not worthy of attracting love, then love will not flow to you. The best way to overcome negative feelings about yourself is by becoming the person you want to be. Imagine being the person that attracts an abundance of love into your life, practise self-care rituals that boost your self-confidence and make you feel good. By changing your mindset you can reshape your mind and body confidence and be a magnet for finding new love.
“Take time to be grateful for all that you have and all that you are. You deserve love just like anyone else, whether that is self-love or receiving love from someone else. If you would like extra support on your journey, my GLOW Elite Wellness membership would be perfect for you.”
ATTRACT A LOVE THAT’S REAL
Trish Mckinnley, manifesting expert and winner of the Rising Star category in the Soul Awards 2020 (trishmckinnley.com)
Q: I keep falling for the guys who never call me back! How can I attract a love that’s real?
A: “You don’t have to be Goddess Venus to stop falling for the same wrong guy. Your inner goddess knows what she wants. Say, ‘It is my intention to attract the guy of my heart.’ Then write your list of exactly the traits you wish for in your dream partner. Think of this as your inner goddess writing out a literal job description. Once created, hold the list to your heart and say, ‘Here I am and there you are, come to me now, from near or far. Feel my call, for our hearts are aligned. Come to me, for now is the time.’
“Imagine a beautiful reunion as you and your partner hug and your energy intermingles. Feel the joy, fulfillment and love. While still imagining the embrace, ask the angels, ‘Please wrap your protective wings around us.’ Take a deep breath, inhaling and solidifying this relationship and exhaling to the Universe the release and manifestation of this dream come true. Say, ‘With love and gratitude, and so it is.’
“Place your paper in your sacred space or altar. Embellish it with items to signify love like photos, flowers and candles and add two rose quartz crystals and one clear quartz crystal. Be confident that angels are working at making your dreams come true. It has already manifested and he is on his way.”
WIN HIM BACK
Wendy Dove is offering readers a special offer on phone readings, call 02071116126 and quote ‘Soul’ (wendydove.co.uk)
Q: My boyfriend broke up with me nearly two years ago, but we’re still friends and now I want him back. How can I rekindle the flame?
A: “The fact that you are still friends is key to getting this back on track. It is always good to consider compatibility readings when things get stuck like this. A compatibility reading will allow you deeper insight into what makes two people tick in love and relationships, plus it tells you where you may be failing at times. Couples can float around one another for years, both feeling the chemistry and neither wanting to commit fully because of mixed signals and misread situations. You are clearly like-minded and compatible people or you would not have stayed friends for so long. You just need to find the key here.
“Other people can interfere with a potentially great relationship, so it is important to spend some quality time alone together. Shared interests and activities where you are working together is a great way to cement the bond, too.
“Many of my readings are on love and relationships and I always say it’s important to focus on actions rather than words. If it’s true love you will feel it and neither of you will have to say it. We waste a lot of time waiting for the ‘I love you’ moment. But it’s not always easy to say unless the person is confident in how the other feels. There are also those who will just say ‘I love you’ and it’s just words with no real meaning behind them.”
HEAL MY JEALOUSY
Gemma Williams, psychic and manifesting mentor (manifestinggurus.com)
Q: I’ve noticed my partner talking a lot to a woman at work and laughing together. What can I do?
A: “Self-love is one of the key ways to help with jealousy and working on where this might have come from and why you’re feeling this way. Sometimes it can be a link to our past and past hurts. Inner child healing will help with this if your pain comes from childhood – you could be holding onto more than you realise.
“You will also probably notice that you feel more jealous in certain moon phases because the moon helps us heal and let go of what no longer serves us.
“There are self-love spells you can do, but working on yourself everyday is the best way to move forward and heal where this issue comes from. Jealousy can ruin relationships, so it’s always best to work within to see what this feeling is attached to.
“Rose quartz is a beautiful crystal that can help you with your problem. Place the quartz on your heart and ask it to help you heal and let go of the jealousy. Write down how you feel and burn the paper afterwards. Remember that words are spells and thoughts become real.
“I run a VIP manifesting academy with spiritual and healing workshops. There are different workshops on self-love and you are welcome to join us.”
KNOW WHEN HE’LL POP THE QUESTION
Eleanor Grace, TV psychic medium (gracedestiny.com)
Q: When will he propose? I’ve been with him for five years, but whenever the topic comes up he just falls quiet. How can I help him be more confident, or open him up to see if he even wants what I want?
A: “All relationships go through a familiar pattern before both parties can really decide on the big question of the marriage proposal. ‘When is it going to happen,’ ‘are we in love’ and ‘do we want the same things’ are typical concerns. The longer the relationship, the more fearful we become of everything fizzling out. So lets take a deeper look at you two. You have both experienced the euphoric stage of falling in love, then the stage of really getting to know each other, including your flaws and strengths. You have a strong romantic attraction that binds you together. Five years is an amazing journey of commitment to each other and there will be a ‘knowing’ between the two of you. You are ready for the next stage, marriage.
“You already know his weakness, which is lack of confidence. He may appear unprepared for everything that marriage represents, such as financial responsibilities, children and making a home. The future path can sometimes be overwhelming, so try to lesson the enormity of the decision. Make it easy for him to suggest marriage by having realistic expectations of your life together. Tell him how much you love him. Tell him you will stand by him no matter what and watch his confidence grow.
“Be romantic, flirtatious and kind, and you could have your proposal within a week! Be prepared and apply the Law of Attraction. Concentrate on your wishes, imagine the proposal in a mini-meditation and focus on a successful outcome. You will be surprised at the result. Eleanor’s Psychic School has a love attraction series of psychic visualisations, which includes How to Make a Cosmic Order for Love.”