Dr David Hamilton shares how through loss he discovered his soul purpose
I acutely recall the final moments of my dog, Oscar’s, life. I knew he was slipping away. He had bone cancer and was only two years old. We tried everything we could to save his life, but it wasn’t to be. He was leaving now. I’d been filled with anxiety in the days leading up to that moment, not only because we loved him dearly, but because I worried about what he’d do on the other side without his Mummy and Daddy. It would have seemed an irrational worry to any medium, but it’s how I felt.
Know your Infinite potential
At the precise moment he passed, I had a profound experience. I felt myself, or part of myself, on the other side awaiting him as he crossed over. I could simultaneously feel his joy when he saw me, my own relief at the profound realisation, and a sense of my future self and own passing, as if time had collapsed. It taught me many things – that life goes on. I believed it before, but there’s a difference between intellectual understudying and a personal experience of deep truth. It also taught me that time is not linear and, in the afterlife, all moments are one – it’s possible to be here, there, and everywhere simultaneously.
Heal and grow
Oscar arrived in my life exactly two days before I started work on my self-love book
– ‘I Heart Me’ and passed away exactly two days before I finished it. He came to help me with self-acceptance. I had always lacked this. Few people noticed, but I felt it. The sense of not being enough was on occasion palpable and filtered into some important areas of my life. But Oscar changed that for me.
Those two years were a time for growth. I began to cherish myself more and consider my own impact. I realised that relationships are reciprocal. We learn from others, but we are the source of their lessons too. I found comfort in considering what I gave to Oscar – love, happiness, play, family, adventure, more play and a source of millions of tail wags.
Discover your spiritual calling
I’ve started to ask myself, what’s my purpose? Why am I here in other people’s lives? Why am I friends with so and so? We usually ask these sorts of questions the other way around, wondering what lesson you’re supposed to learn from a person or event. It’s highly empowering to place this significance on yourself. It helps you realise that the many roles you have to play in life and also allows you to realise how much you can positively impact the lives of those around you. It’s the key to self-love.
Now try something new
1 Think of a difficult or challenging situation in your life. Instead of thinking what lesson you are supposed to learn, turn it around. Ask yourself what role you have to play, what impact you’re being called to create or whose life you are here to influence. What message do you have for such a person or event? What insight strikes you as valuable?
2 Try the same thing with specific family members, friends or colleagues. Instead of asking, ‘What am I here to learn?’ ask ‘What am I here to give?’
3 As you go about your day, notice the momentary encounters you have with others and consider your purpose here. How could you bring a smile to someone’s face? Give it a go.
Dr David Hamilton is a Scottish Author with a PhD in organic chemistry, who tours the UK giving speeches on the mind-body connection. Go to drdavidhamilton.com
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