“I am a Super Attractor”: one writer reviews Gabby Bernstein’s manifesting work

Our Content Creator Priya Kantaria discovers a new feeling of freedom in manifesting with Bestselling Author Gabrielle Bernstein

I want to be a ‘super attractor’ and manifest with ease and grace – doesn’t everyone? In truth, it’s made me a bit of a manifesting junkie over the years. But then, two years ago, doomscrolling on Instagram, I discovered Gabrielle Bernstein, a New York Times Bestselling Author, Motivational Speaker and Spiritual Leader. Gabby has a following of one million on Insta, her own podcast, Dear Gabby, and has penned nine books including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor and her latest, Happy Days. Here I share the moments of self-discovery when I put her techniques in Super Attractor to the test. If she could do manifesting from a place of happiness and contentment, I decided I could too.

Experience inner joy

Christmas was over and I had enjoyed a holiday of great belonging and fun celebrating with family and friends. Even so I was very aware that I had become stuck in a habit of self-doubt. I could list the problems in my life; the things that were missing from it and made it less than perfect, and I did list them often in my private thoughts. I didn’t have a boyfriend, I was overweight, my home was small and I lived alone.

I picked up Gabby’s Super Attractor book on a sunny morning in January. Stretched out on my orange sofa in a patch of sunlight and fully engrossed in her words, I was dismayed when I recognised myself in the first few pages of the book as a ‘manic manifestor’. Like Gabby was describing, I had read all the books and made all the vision boards, complete with two-month, two-year and five-year plans and visions for manifesting. She explained that manic manifestors are simply working too hard at it, and that in fact manifesting should be a fun feeling.

She writes, “In order to truly live as a Super Attractor, we must accept that good things can come easily.” All the way through school, I floated by with good grades and great friends, but at university the world became a place of hard work and very little reward. I worked harder and harder to receive compliments and often didn’t hear any praise or encouragement at all. But there was something in those words from Gabby that rang true with my intuition. I wanted that sense of liberation and freedom that reminded me of being a teenager.

Gabby says, “Repeat after me: When you think you’ve surrendered, surrender some more. Impatience is the antidote to manifesting, and I say that with love! (I used to be a ‘manic manifestor’ myself, I didn’t only want things to happen, I wanted things to happen fast!) Oftentimes, we lose faith in the Universe and become pessimistic not because things aren’t working out, but because things aren’t working out…on our timeline. Leave some space for grace! The Universe has a plan that’s far better than our own. Trust in that!”

Feel positive vibes

Over the next few weeks, I would remind myself that good things can come easily. I relaxed more and allowed myself to feel more in tune with the people I was with. But my vibe wobbled – my mother would turn up unexpectedly and criticise the mess in my flat or I would find myself feeling lonely on an evening in front of the TV. But I realised that it wasn’t a negative feeling sabotaging me, it was fear of a negative feeling, so I used Gabby’s Choose Again Method – try it yourself!

1 Notice the fear.
Notice when fearful thoughts start sabotaging your positive flow and ask yourself, “How do I feel right not?” Let yourself feel whatever is coming up for you.

2 Forgive the thought.
Forgive yourself for fearing the good feelings. Say out loud or silently, “I forgive this thought, and I choose to believe in
love instead.” Then celebrate your desire to shift back to feeling good instead.

3 Choose again.
Answer this question: “What is the best-feeling thought I can find right now?” Then thank the Universe for guiding you towards that thought.

Tilt the scales

Gabby’s Emotional Guidance Scale also helped me improve my vibe (you can find it here gabbybernstein.com/emotional-guidance-scale-abraham-hicks). When I felt in a low state, I expressed the emotion, journaled it, spoke it, let it out somehow and then took a conscious step to move up the ladder to a better emotion. I was feeling insecure about my weight after a chocolate binge on a Monday night, but I talked myself into a rage against society for making me feel guilty for eating what I liked. I slid further up the scale when I admitted I felt discouraged, then made real strides sliding into pessimism, which is where I’d normally stop. Instead, I got an early night and the next morning journaled myself into optimism and then a feeling of passion for my beautiful hair and love of dancing!

Pray for goodness

I was feeling better and it was a precious moment when I started waking up in the mornings without dread and instead with a feeling of hope and appreciation. It was in this state that I had my ‘aha’ moment, and it came to me as I turned to a chapter in Gabby’s book called Lift the Veil. She talks about hitting her knees and praying and I found myself wondering how to pray. So one night, tucked up in bed already, I thought I’d try it. My words went out to God and I didn’t know which god I was really praying to, but it felt nice. I learned that faith is something you should work at, like imagination, creativity or even love itself. It is something to practise and cherish.

Manifest happiness

But what was I manifesting? I’d started this particular part of my journey feeling like I was dissatisfied with many things in my life. I saw that I needed to feel relief, to feel security and to feel validated. I was manifesting a feeling of joy and faith and I didn’t need to know where that would lead.

At the beginning of March and the start of spring, I was stretched out once more on a Saturday on my orange sofa in a patch of bright sunlight. I wasn’t going through my usual list of problems, instead I was counting my blessings. I was fit and able, I had a solid group of friends and here I was enjoying a weekend in my own space. It felt like achieving those things was never really what mattered – what mattered was feeling it was okay to love what I already had.

What’s next for me? I want to manifest even deeper emotional stability now – a faith so strong that my vibration is truly unshakeable! I’ll keep you posted…

Gabrielle Bernstein is a New York Times Bestselling Author, Motivational Speaker and Spiritual Leader. Her latest book is Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace (£18.99, Hay House) amazon.co.uk. For more on Gabby visit gabbybernstein.com and follow her on Instagram @gabbybernstein