Once you get aquainted with that nagging voice in your head, you can transform your relationship with it. Here’s how to join forces with your inner wise self and banish negativity for good
Try to imagine what your critic looks like. For example, you might it might be a perfectionist who speaks loudly, or it may be small and tired looking, or large and frightening. Once you’ve got a clear picture in your mind, imagine the critic sitting next to you and your inner wise self.
Ask the negative side of you for a list of concerns and complaints, and calmly take notes. For example, your it might say things like:
- Your love life is pathetic. When was the last time you________________?
- In your relationship, you keep repeating the same mistakes! You never___________
- I can’t believe you served that meal to_______________
Your house is very cluttered, and you never clean it. You should really____________
- You should really visit more often. You’re not a good_______________
- The way you conduct yourself at work is substandard. You’ll never make enough money doing that. You should_______________
- You always forget to and never_______________
- It’s obvious to everyone that you can’t________________
The list might seem endless, but eventually the critic will become repetitive and it will run out of steam – see if you can keep going until that happens.
Thank this side of yourself for working so hard, and assure it that you and your wise self are now in charge. Then embody being in charge. This means that you stop allowing your inner critic to bully you into to believing its messages.
Go back to your list of concerns and ask your wise self to help you transform it with counteracting statements
- Use language that is supportive, encouraging and full of love
- Make your new statements as believable as possible
- Calmly and purposefully state what you know to be true. Defending yourself or arguing with your inner critic will keep you under its thumb
Doing this step will allows you to reframe those things you’ve been saying to yourself You’ll be able to look at situations with love rather than through the eyes of your critic Your inner dialogue will be friendlier, easier, and much more loving
About the authors
SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) and Dr. John Waddell are the authors of Succulent Wild Love. SARK is a best-selling author and artist. Dr. John is a his clinical psychologist and metaphysical teacher. Visit PlanetSARK.com for more information