How many times have things gone wrong within your family, only for you to say: “It’s just history repeating itself”? You might wonder why these negative patterns keep occurring, and you probably think there’s nothing you can do to change your fortunes, however the solution could lie within your family tree. Angela Kennedy investigates…
According to ancestral healers, your past has a powerful influence on your present. The genetic memory of family trauma from generations past can linger and cause you to become stuck in a cycle of negative behaviour. Family constellation therapist Nikki Mackay adds: “I am constantly amazed at the events that are forgotten or suppressed within a family. Secrets are swept under the carpet and never spoken about. But the unseen and unspoken have a habit of making themselves heard further down the line.”
With that in mind, by acknowledging past hurts and remembering your ancestors you can break the cycle of destructive patterns in your life – all of which is achievable with ancestral clearing.
Connect to your family constellation
Nikki Mackay tells you how…
Close your eyes and think of a relative (in this example we’re going to concentrate on your mother). In your mind’s eye see her standing before you. Feel your connection to her.
Notice how your body and breath react to your conscious connection to your mother.
*What comes in to mind as you look at her?
*Is it a comfortable and loving connection?
*Does any part of you feel tense or uncomfortable?
*Can you sense the connection clearly or is it hazy, blurred or fragmented?
Say: ‘You are my mother and I am your son/daughter’
*How does it feel?
*What happens to your breathing?
Repeat the process, bringing in your maternal grandparents. Next time, add in your great-grandparents, then your great-great-grandparents and so on. As you work back through the generations notice how you feel, emotionally. Pay attention to your breathing and any tension or relaxation within your body.
*Imagine your mother as a child, growing up within her family with all her entanglements. How does she feel?
*Imagine her hopes, her fears and her dreams
*Do any of them resonate with your hopes, fears and dreams?
*See her in your mind’s eye meeting your father and beginning their relationship together.
*Imagine their hopes and dreams for the future.
*Do they have to compromise or sacrifice for one another?
*Or for their families?
*See her as she discovers she is pregnant with you.
*How does that feel?
*Can you see the different directions in which she is pulled?
*See her different loyalties and entanglements?
*Imagine the sacrifice that’s made as she is transformed from woman to mother.
*What price does she pay to be your mother?
*What price do you pay to be her child?
* Go back to the beginning now. Think of your mother standing before you. Feel your connection to her. Breathe in that moment. How does it feel for you now?
Give it ago with other relatives, too.