Manifest a partner by finding inspiration on your love quest, says writer Belle Roberts
Love. It can be a magical thing. But when we’re obsessing over finding the one it can feel uncomfortable. We look for it everywhere. Some of us find love easier than others, whereas for the rest of us we may need to do some extra work to attract a healthy relationship. That’s where manifestation can help!
Expand your consciousness
In simple terms, manifestation is all about using your intention to attract what you want most. Of course, it’s more complex than that. We’ve all heard the phrase ‘like attracts like’ before, but it’s true. When we focus our energy and thoughts positively we will naturally attract positive experiences. If you’ve manifested before, you already know how powerful your mind and thoughts can be. While there are many facets to manifestation, there is one concept that I have found profoundly interesting and useful over the past year: expanders.
Coined by Manifestation Advisor Lacy Phillips, this concept doesn’t just relate solely to manifesting love. As explained on her podcast ‘To Be Magnetic’, an expander is a person(s) who has created or achieved something in their life that we desire. It’s through our expanders that we begin to train our subconscious to recognise that what we desire can in fact be manifested. These expanders don’t have to be someone in the public eye, they can be friends, family, someone that you follow on social media. In regards to love, these people embody a loving, healthy relationship and have all of the other qualities that you wish for yourself.
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“For love, you need to spend time working out what you value most from a relationship”
Let the Universe show you
There’s nothing more powerful than the Universe showing us that what we desire already exists in our world. Expanders show us that it’s also possible for us too. When I used to play volleyball when I was in school, I was taught to visualise the ball going into the net. I was manifesting what I wanted to happen – expanders do just this for us. However, expanders should expand your belief system rather than making you feel jealous or intimidated. If you feel this way about someone you believe to be an expander of yours, take a step back and assess. Why do you feel this way? What is making you feel this way? Should they be removed as an expander?
For love, you need to spend time working out what you value most from a relationship. What are the qualities that you are drawn to? Once you have worked through this, take some time to brainstorm your expanders. I have included some prompts below to help you. Once you have your list of expanders – there is no limit to this – revise it as often as you need.
1 Who do you feel drawn to instantly around the topic of love? This can be an individual or couple.
2 What qualities and values do they possess that you are looking for in a relationship?
3 How do they act in love? How do they act towards each other?
4 What is their story of love? Are there similarities to yours?
5 How can you learn from the person(s)?
“There’s nothing more powerful than the Universe showing us that what we desire already exists in our world”
Take the manifesting step
If possible, spend time with them, talk to them about their love life and relationship. Become inspired by their story and know that the same is possible for yourself. If you can’t spend time with them in person or online, why not follow them on social media. If they have a podcast, why not have a listen? Why not subscribe? This is your time to immerse yourself in the world of expanders. Soak up all of the qualities and values that you are wanting from a relationship.
This has been the best manifestation trick out there for me, but you can also work more with affirmations and visualisation and more manifesting techniques to let the Universe really know that you are ready for love!
Belle Roberts is a Wellbeing Writer and Yoga and Meditation Teacher. She helps individuals to connect to their intuition and bring balance through seasonal living techniques and practices. Follow her on Instagram @belle.roberts_
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Cosmin Cernica is a Content Creator and Exclusive Luxury Designer (Instagram @cosmincernica). He shares his story about how the power of manifestation changed his life.
“I can honestly say that my previous dating experiences were truly terrible – I met some right weirdos. One time, I thought my luck had finally turned. I had been seeing someone for a few months when I discovered he was also dating one of my childhood friends! I walked into a bar to meet my friend and their new partner, only to be faced with my own so-called partner!
“I thought then that I didn’t even want to attempt a love life because of the horrible experiences I had been through. Then I decided to use the Law of Attraction. My top tip for people is to start simple. I started with a journal where I would write my goals and wishes every morning – ideas about where I wanted my life, business and relationships to lead.
“To this day, I fully believe I manifested my partner and wouldn’t have met them without my affirmation rituals. I repeated to myself every morning, ‘I will meet the one’. It feels almost like you’re lying to yourself every day, but you want to turn the lie into a truth. After just a few months, I met my dream partner. The funny thing is, he was manifesting true love too! I have found a relationship so real and pure; we have been together for ten years and married for five.
“There’s no point asking yourself when it’s going to come or why hasn’t it happened yet. You need to tell yourself and the Universe that it’s already happened. Once I knew it worked, I would do the same with my business and gain the successes I always dreamed of. Your thoughts have the power to bring anything into reality. Learning to manifest in a way that works for you is vital for your growth.”