White witch Patricia Weston explains how she learned to feel more confident and comfortable in her own skin – and how you can too!
The first time I called myself a witch was the most liberating time of my life. I know a lot of witches on a personal level, but many daren’t come out of their broom closet for fear they might be ridiculed. I’ve always been a witch, deep within my soul, but I didn’t tell the world, including my family, until I was in my 30s. Needless to say, my revelation wasn’t so well received by my family. My husband is fantastic and supports me every step of my otherworldly ways, but my mother was devastated.
She didn’t like me calling myself a witch because of what other people may think. When I confronted her and asked her why she never has any interest in my work or asks how things are going, she cried and said, “I just don’t like you calling yourself a witch! Can’t you call yourself something else?” As distressing as this encounter was, it gave me the push I needed to forge ahead on my chosen path. I wallowed for a while, worried I was doing the wrong thing because my mother didn’t approve, then I did what every witch does and cast a spell to remedy the problem! I love my mother dearly, but there comes a time in a woman’s life when she has to do things for herself, to strike out on her own and embrace her unique individuality. Ever since a child, I have been like that. I like to prove myself to my elders. In the final year of school, the deputy headteacher told me and another pupil we were not capable of sitting the honours English paper for our final exams.
We duly took this on board, secretly scampered off to read all the relevant texts for the honours paper, helped each other out, sat the exam paper and passed! I then went on to study English at university and even a Masters degree on the subject. Subsequently, both this former pupil and I are now also journalists. The lesson here is that sometimes an individual’s lack of faith in us is only a reflection of the limitations they have in themselves and their own fear of failure. Despite the negative reaction from my family of origin, I went full-steam ahead on my path with determination and strength. When you know who you are, you have got to summon the courage to be that person, whether others like it or not. Once you feel comfortable in your own skin, you find other people’s opinions no longer matter.
Exercise: Uncover your authentic self
Try this spell for courage to unleash the real you into the world!
You will need: some rosemary, nettle and yarrow herb, a purple candle and peppermint oil.
1 Pour a little of the oil over the candle in a clockwise direction. Mix the herbs together in a sachet or muslin pouch, then light the candle and chant three times “by the power of Thor, I embrace me. I shine and believe in myself.”
2 Carry the pouch with you as you allow the candle to safely burn down. Embrace feelings of empowerment and confidence.
3 Cast this spell on a Thursday, preferably during the waxing moon. If you’re in a hurry, cast it during any moon phase. Dedicate it to Thor, the powerful Norse deity and embodiment of strength and courage.
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