Get all the feels with our lovely experts’ tips on relationships and self-love
It’s the month of love, and there’s no better time to treat yourself to the gift of loving yourself first! Settle in, brew that cuppa and have a look as our gurus guide you forwards to access deep love, with Kundalini Yoga, manifesting a soulmate connection and practising all important self-care. Love begins with you, and you can spread it throughout the world. Start today and share your newfound wisdom with all your loved ones, too!
Make happiness your priority
“Love! Everyone truly desires this one thing, yet it seems to elude most of us, and why is that? After losing in love and completely losing myself, I decided to make happiness my number one priority in life. Little did I know that this journey would see me find true love in every sense of the word! I learned how to love unconditionally and this opened my eyes to a whole new world. It healed every part of my being, aligned me with my life’s purpose and led me to reunite with my soulmate.
“Like most people, I’d been looking outside of myself for love, for that feeling of wholeness to complete me, to make me feel worthy and deserving of love. But I now understand that this can only come from me, and to attract what I wanted I had to become a vibrational match for it!
“Read my journey in my book Signposts to Source; let it inspire you to see just what’s possible when you choose to make your happiness a priority. Soul & Spirit readers can purchase a unique gift set that includes a signed copy with a complete set of chakra tumble stones for the special price of £25 at lauramorrice.thrivecart.com/book-gift-offer – a great way to start your journey to find true love and alignment.”
Take time for you
“As the incredible late Princess of Wales said: ‘Every one of us needs to show how much we care for each other, and in the process care for ourselves.’
“How can you pour from an empty cup? Practising self-love and taking precious time out of your day for YOU is imperative to keeping your cup full.
“Reading a book or your tarot deck, meditating with your crystals, having a well-deserved spa day or just taking 10 minutes out of your day to sit and drink an undisturbed cup of coffee (one that hasn’t been reheated in the microwave because you were busy doing something else – I’m sure you can all relate).
“Why not use your self-love practice to indulge in a luxurious spa bath with our Aromatherapy Rose & Ylang Ylang Pink Planet Bath Bomb, a huge ball of self-love with decadent rose petals and a moon-charged rose quartz crystal buried inside – the stone of unconditional love. Unconditional love is something we should all proritise showing to ourselves first!
“Please do check out our full range of Self-Love Aromatherapy & Crystal-Infused Home Spa products on our website and follow us on Instagram @duchydesignshomespa.”
Begin the journey of self-love
Helena Murray, Accredited Spiritual Life Coach, NLP Practitioner, Visionary Intuitive and Crystal Therapist (email email@example.com), says:
“It may sound obvious that to truly love others, we need to start by loving ourselves. This can be a whole journey in itself, but it’s one worth delving into before looking outside of ourselves for love. This is certainly advice I’d gift to my younger self if I could go back in time!
“So how can we begin to practise self-love? ‘Boundaries’ is fast becoming a buzzword in spiritual and self-help arenas, and rightly so. Yet often we are so busy with daily life that we don’t always see the aspects of our lives that would benefit from healthier boundaries. In my work with clients, this is often the first area we focus on, as the implementation of healthy boundaries in one area can automatically have a positive domino effect on all other aspects of our lives.
“Setting boundaries is really a sacred act of self-love, and doesn’t always have to be active. Boundaries can sometimes be silent and as simple as peacefully choosing NOT to react or give energy to a person, situation, technology (social media!) or habit that may drain us of our vital life force.
“My super-quick ‘Self-Love Ceremony’ is to take a moment to rest your hands on your heart, breathe slowly and affirm inwardly: ‘It’s okay for me to switch off and care for myself in this moment. I love and honour who I am. I am at peace.’ This self-permission style of boundary has a beautiful calming effect and creates more space, clarity and sincere self-love as we continue to practise it.
“For the month of February 2022, I am offering the first three readers who contact me a donation-based 1-hour Spiritual Life Coaching session to gently assist you in implementing the necessary self-love boundaries to your lifestyle, so life becomes a joy and no longer a chore.”
Harness loving crystal energy
Annie Wilkinson-Gill, Owner of The Crystal Buddha (thecrystalbuddha.com), says:
“Crystals like rose quartz, pink tourmaline and rhodonite are all beautiful heart-based stones. Associated with Feminine Energy and the divine goddess within, they aid the energetic flow of love to fill your life with a gorgeous uplifting energy and a gentle vibration that brings compassion. Each of these stones are said to help you heal from any emotional trauma and bring with them unconditional love.
“Rhodonite is perfect for cleansing and clearing the emotional body of any destructive feelings, releasing any guilt or worry. Pink tourmaline is a primary heart chakra stone – it has a beautiful soothing, nurturing energy which allows you to be gentle with yourself and enables you to let any emotional barriers slip away, so that you can let love in, feel the love and communicate your feelings with others. It also guides all these emotions into self-love and self-worth and is an incredibly empowering stone. Rose quartz is ideal for harmonising your personal space. Placed at the entrance to your home it will bring only love to your door. In the bedroom it will complement romantic relationships, vibrating a light-loving energy. It is a powerful healing crystal and a stone of unconditional love, perfect for emitting a joyful and deeply loving environment.”
Move on with ease and grace
“St Valentine has a lot to answer for, with his bow and arrow pinging pink bubbles of love into everyone who feels happy and fulfilled. Hallelujah if that is you, feel the passion and share your joy with everyone you know! But the end of a loving relationship is as important as the beginning, so be kind to yourself.
“Love is all around us, but when you are in a state of fear you may be in lack of Love & Light. So, what do you do if it starts to feel wrong? When is it time to move on and cut the ties? Your relationship, job or lifestyle has reached its sell-by date and you know it’s time to leave. It really is important to give yourself permission to acknowledge your feelings, your grief and take the time to have the ‘Attitude of Gratitude’.
“I’m in practice of this now as my time in Avalon is coming to an end as Guardian of the Daisy Centres Angelic Healing Retreat; Merlin & the Angels are coming with me.
“Developing your spiritual practice to connect with Archangel Michael, Merlin and the Angels of Awakening can help you move on with ease and grace. I can support you in my new Merlin and the Angels of Awakening 4-week Spiritual Development course, which begins online on 17th February. To make good positive memories and set your intentions for the future, book a Healing session with me today, visit daisyfoss.com, follow @DaisyFoss or call 07970 108156.”
“Access the deep Love that exists within us all, so that you can have that love reflected in your life”
Fall deeper into love
“It’s always the right time for love! Fall deeper in love with yourself, deeper in love with your partner or manifest your soulmate! The Universe has cosmic energy that naturally flows in the manifesting direction. Connect with that stream to manifest the love you want!
1 Make a list of the immediate cosmic happenings. This is the current moon cycle, planets retrograding, astrological sun signs and any unique energies like solstice or gateways.
2 Identify how you can apply their unique cosmic energies to align with love. For example, retrogrades are great for identifying past fears blocking you from attracting the love you want so you can release. Retrogrades are also great for remembering past successes and building on those.
3 Write your intention. For example, ‘I am going to harness the energy of the Universe to attract the love of my life, my soulmate, my beloved.’ Then, reword into your affirmation. It can be something like, ‘I am attracting love!’
“Working with the cosmic energy is harnessing the power that creates galaxies, unique snowflakes and breath-taking starry nights. So, tap into the magical force of the ‘birds and the bees’ and manifest the love that you desire.
“A complete list of monthly cosmic happenings is provided in The Essential Manifesting Guidebook 2022. There are also worksheets and methods for working with the cosmic energy provided. Once you’ve purchased your book, visit essentialmanifestingguidebook.com and provide your receipt number to receive your Essential Manifesting Bundle and Manifesting 101 Course. See you there, angels!”
Choose true love
Will & Katy, Owners of Yoga Union (yogaunion.life or email firstname.lastname@example.org), say:
“Yoga means union. But union with what? Ultimately, it means the end of separation from Love, or whatever name you give the one true force behind all creation. Kundalini Yoga goes into this deeply, using movement and mantras to heal separation and power you into union.
“We believe that the external reflects the internal, especially when it comes to relationships. So the key to a harmonious partnership is self-love. We found each other through Kundalini Yoga and have seen a direct correlation between the way we feel about ourselves and the partners we’ve attracted throughout our lives. Yoga, for us, has been a huge part of finally attracting what we truly want. Our commitment to each other is to always work on our own self-love first, so that we can then experience that together.
“Try Kundalini Yoga now to access the deep Love that exists within us all, so that you can have that love reflected in your life. No previous experience is necessary. We are trained in other healing modalities including shamanism, Reiki and conscious coaching, and sessions are a blend of physical yoga and group inner work.
“Become your own teacher and find the truth that has always been within you – Ek Ongkar, Sat Nam. If you would like to experience the transformational power of Kundalini Yoga, email us quoting ‘Soul&Spirit’ to receive a free session.”
Create a love doll
Freya Fulbrook Cook, Owner of Freya’s Cauldron (freyascauldron.co.uk), says:
“We all need a little help in the love department at times and a wonderful way to carry out a spell or ritual is to create a poppet doll. These are basically handcrafted spells, usually in a person-shaped, handmade doll, but can be in other shapes too. They can be as fancy or as plain as you wish, and we offer various kits for making poppet dolls on the Freya’s Cauldron website to help you make one for your chosen intent. Here is a simple one you can make
“To make a simple love poppet take a piece of red or pink felt and fold in half. Cut out a heart shape as large as you wish, so that you are left with two identical shapes. Pin together and sew around the edges (we recommend with blanket stitch or straight stitch) but you can also sew using a machine too. Leave a gap of one inch to allow for some filling. Fill the poppet using cotton wool, old bits of cloth, dried moss, toy filling and so on. Add in some rose petals and a rose quartz or garnet crystal and sew up.
“The heart can be decorated with fancy stitching and smaller hearts in different colours. When it is complete, hold the heart over your own and recite what you would like to achieve, for example: ‘May my true love come forward, may our love continue to blossom and grow stronger, I empower this heart to aid my journey of self-love’.”
Love yourself unconditionally
Helena Clare, Founder of the Lightseeker’s Way, Clairaudient Author and Angel Connection Teacher (lightseekersway.com/lightseekers-way-book, email email@example.com or on Facebook ‘The Lightseeker’s Way’), says:
“Have you experienced a toxic relationship? Do you feel you’ve been single for long enough and yearn for your life partner? What we experience in the outside world is a reflection of our internal state. We are on this planet to learn lessons, but if we are not unconditionally loving ourselves we can fail to have a fulfilling relationship. It took me many years of self-work to be ready for the amazing partner I now have and my journey included emotionally abusive relationships.
“You can save years and attract your perfect mate through the sacred lessons shared from Source that I’ve captured in my book called The Lightseeker’s Manual. Learn how to communicate with angels, raise your vibration and save the world. It is available at Amazon and for order from any bookstore, as well as on my website. It provides an accelerated process to wisdom, self-love and ascension.
“The message I’ve received is that our growth is essential for the planet’s survival. Self-love and finding one’s true mate happen when we undertake this rapid development. The Lightseeker’s Manual helps you achieve this through transformational meditations and exercises, showing you how to access the incredible healing power of the Mahatma Energy and Source Energy itself. If you are ready for the most incredible love and life, or if you already have the partner you dream of but want to help heal the world, I invite you to invest in the Manual and over the next six months invest in yourself. Then we can blaze our Light together and find the ultimate Love, both of the self and in our perfect mate, and heal the world.”
Manifest the love you deserve
“Self-love is so important for all of us – how we feel about ourselves is the love we will attract into our life. Do you treat yourself the way you would like to be treated? Love is beautiful, and when you love yourself from within you attract more positive, loving relationships.
“Sometime we struggle as we are looking outside of ourselves for love and even if you find it, you still won’t feel complete until you have the love within for yourself. In my VIP Manifesting Academy, my ladies practise mirror magic by looking into the mirror each morning and saying loving things to themselves – try it yourself! It might feel strange at first because you are not used to being loving to yourself. Start doing this everyday and you will notice the difference in how you feel about yourself and others.
“Lacking self-love can create all kinds of different toxic emotions, insecurities, jealousy, the feeling that you’re not worthy. Once we start to work on loving ourselves, the toxic feeling goes away.
“Join my VIP Manifesting Academy (visit manifestinggurus.com) this February and manifest the relationships you desire for 2022. We are doing 21 days of self-love: workshops and weekly distant Reiki, all live on Facebook. Come and take part – you will see and feel the difference in yourself. Join the FREE Facebook group ‘Mindset Makeover’, follow me, Gemma Elizabeth Williams on Facebook, visit manifestinggurus.com or if you have any questions about the Academy, call me on 07286060175.”