Build a love bond

Dr David Hamilton reveals the magical link between loving connections and telesomatic events

One day, as a woman sat writing at her desk, her hand suddenly began to burn. She clutched it and drew it into her chest as the pain seared. It was so sudden – almost inexplicable. Moments later, she received a call from the university that her daughter was attending. Her daughter had an accident in the lab. Acid had spilled on her hand, the same hand that the mother had felt the burn. Even more perplexing, is the fact this accident occurred at around the same time that the mother felt this unexplainable, blistering sensation. This sort of thing is known as a telesomatic event, a name given by Berthold E. Schwartz, a neurologist who was the first to study them.

What is a telesomatic event?

A telesomatic event is one that occurs even though two people may be separated by a distance. During the event, they momentarily behave as a single person, meaning that an experience felt by one is also felt by the other. Centuries ago, this sort of thing was deemed witchcraft, and women were burned at the stake for it. It was feared to be dark magic, but we now know that these events occur through love – a close bond between two people. It is feelings of empathy, compassion, fondness, and warmth that make telesomatic occurrences possible.

Believe in your natural ability

Love strengthens connections that then allow one person to tap into the feeling of the other. Many of us will have experienced such events, either mild or profound, yet we largely write them off as mere coincidence. This is not the case. Telesomatic incidences are natural, and they show us that the thread that connects all life is of love, and to make the thread stronger, we only need to feed it. We all possess this ability.

Practise Metta Bhavana
One of the simplest and most effective ways to improve your sense of connection with others is through a Buddhist meditation practice known as Metta Bhavana, which means universal love for all beings.

1 Find somewhere quiet where you can be alone and undisturbed for a short while.

2 Sit comfortably and focus on your breath for a few moments, with the intention to relax your body and mind.

3 Focus on yourself, saying three times, ‘may I be happy, and well, and safe, and may I feel at ease’. Then, shift your focus to someone you care about, saying three times again, ‘may you be happy, and well, and safe, and may you feel at ease.’

4 Now try this for others in your life – friends, neighbours, colleagues. Again, always three times for each person. When you’re ready, extend this to someone who has perhaps caused you stress or who has hurt or offended you in some way.

5 When you wish to finish, expand the mantra three times to all sentient beings. Practice Metta for 20 minutes each day for a week.

Dr. David Hamilton is a Scottish author with a PhD in organic chemistry, and tours the UK giving speeches on the mind-body connection. Go to drdavidhamilton.com