Ever heard of ‘sex magic’? “It isn’t intended to jazz up a lacklustre love life or increase your chances of getting laid on Saturday night,” Skye Alexander, author of Sex Magic For Beginners, tells us. “It is a way to unleash the amazing creative power of sexual energy to generate a desired result. Your goal might be to promote healing or achieve spiritual enlightenment. When you add sexual energy, you increase the intensity of a magic spell.”
Fancy giving it a go? Here’s how…
Create a telos
Decide on an objective (telos). Discuss this telos with your partner – if you have different desires the outcome may be garbled. Compose your telos in the form of an affirmation, something you can easily hold in your mind (and perhaps shout out loud) when you’re in the throes of ecstasy.
Creating a vivid image of it in your mind will generate results more effectively than words will, because your subconscious understands symbols better than language.
Build it up
Many of us tend to rush towards the finish line, rather than pacing ourselves, during sex. But prolonging the experience, allowing sexual energy to build gradually, enhances your magical power. Luxuriate in your sensuality: let your excitement slowly increase until you feel almost ready to orgasm, then back off.
Do some deep breathing and shift from genital stimulation to stroking other parts of the body: arms, back, feet. When the urgency has subsided, gradually elevate the level of excitation until, once again, you almost reach the point of no return. Ease off again. Continue in the manner for as long as you like, slowly and steadily building intensity. With practice, you’ll learn to prolong sex for extended periods.
During high arousal, keep your telos in mind. The more intense your feelings, the faster you attract your desire. In this near-orgasmic state your magnetic power is tremendous. You don’t have to focus on your objective all the time, but remain aware of your purpose for engaging in this sexual ritual. As you raise energy and cycle it through your body, mentally attach your intention to that energy.
When you’re finally ready to release the energy, hold your telos clearly in your mind and feel the pleasure of having your desired outcome manifested in your life, then let your orgasm wash through you. As it does, the momentum you’ve generated carries your telos out into the universe. Afterwards relax and stop thinking about your telos – allow the universe to do its work.