Merge your physical and spiritual energies with these top tips for starting out with tantric sex
1 Make eye contact
The eyes are the windows to the soul, so spend time gazing deeply into one another’s eyes without becoming distracted. This allows you to connect on the deepest level possible, making intimacy even more sacred. In this way, you’re literally taking in all of your partner and sharing every piece of your bodies together.
2 Focus on your partner
Tantric sex teaches not to hide anything from your partner. To fully harness Divine energy, you have to feel totally comfortable with them and be completely open. Focus on what you really love about him or her – the contours of their face, their eye colour, their soft skin, etc. Take extra notice of any new discoveries you make.
3 Embrace one another
Assume a ‘yab-yum’ position. This is a Tibetan phrase meaning “father mother” and basically involves an extended embrace that ensures the highest level of intimacy. Sit cross-legged directly across from your partner with your knees touching, or with your legs wrapped around the other person’s torso. Practice breathing deeply and in synchrony to hold a higher vibration with them.
4 Take things slowly
Don’t rush through sex just to achieve orgasm – fully embrace one another, taking time to kiss and caress. Approach intercourse in a more conscious manner and try to maintain arousal for as long as possible. This will take practice, but you will find that the more you do it, the longer you will be able to hold that energy, enabling you to achieve a higher state of consciousness.
5 Massage one another beforehand
Show your lover how much you appreciate him or her and get them fully relaxed and ready to receive energy from the Divine by giving a massage. Try to massage along the spine in accordance with the chakras, as this will help awaken kundalini and prepare both of you for sacred sex. Always state your intentions together before engaging in tantra so you open up a clear channel between you and the Divine.