Make friends and influence people with these easy ways to get other people to like you when meeting them for the first time…
1 Get to know their story
Everyone has a life story that they want to share, it’s a known fact that we a species love talking about ourselves. Neuroscientists have discovered that self-disclosure rewards the pleasure centres of the brain, and that, given an opportunity, most people will tell you a story or two. When meeting a person for the first time, try to find out what it is they would most like to talk about. They will feel inclined to like you because of it!
2 Ask questions
Questions are great for finding out more about a person – especially if you are unsure of what to say. A question is a great way of showing interest, and can help guide someone else into talking about themselves or telling you a story. If someone says something you don’t necessarily agree with, ask them why they feel the way they do – you may learn something from seeing a subject from a different viewpoint.
3 Mirror their behaviour
We’re not saying copy them exactly, but a great way to make people like you is to mirror them to a certain degree. This method works well, but only if you don’t go overboard! For example, if someone is quiet and reserved, avoid being too over-enthusiastic. If they are rather outgoing, imitate their attitude. If you do a good job with assimilating towards their behaviour, they will believe that you both share characteristics and will be more inclined to like you.
4 Be positive about other people
If you talk about other people, be mindful and watch what you say. Don’t be too negative or complain about others, even if they have hurt you and you have a genuine story to tell. When you complain about others, the person listening may assume they are going to be the next person to lose your respect, and that you are likely to be a judgemental person and judge them unfairly. Always try to present the good and share what you have learned from the experience to help you move forward – this will help you to come across as a more positive person.
5 Give compliments
Everyone loves to be told that they are beautiful, smart and unique. When meeting someone for the first time, tell them you like their hair or something they are wearing – get complimenting and you’ll be sure to get a smile in return!