Love spells are one of the most popular forms of magic. Ancient civilisations had deities of love and lust that they would call upon. Goddesses like the Greek Aphrodite, the Roman Venus and the Norse Freyja show how important the emotion of love has been to humans throughout the ages. Spells, which work by directing energy, can be used to help attract love. While they might sound like an easy way of getting what or whom you desire, magic that interferes with someone else’s free will is not only unfair but could potentially backfire. Besides, would you really be happy knowing your partner is only with you because of a spell you cast? Rather than saying, ‘Make them fall in love with me!’ you could perform a spell to make yourself more lovable, or ask that the right person for you comes along, rather than it be a particular person – as they may not be the one for you after all.
Most people view the rose as a universal symbol of love. Chloris, the Greek goddess of flowers, is said to have created the rose from the lifeless body of a nymph, with help from the other gods, including Aphrodite, the goddess of love. Remember that the name Eros – the God of love – can be spelt out when the letters in ‘rose’ are rearranged! This simple flower spell should be performed by two lovers to help ensure a relationship keeps going well. It works at any time, especially your anniversary.
■ Choose two roses with good sized stems. If you’re picking them, be sure not to take endangered wild flowers and always ask the plant’s permission first.
■ Take a flower each. Hold your flower against your heart and imbue it with loving energies. When you have both done this, carefully tie the two flowers together by the stems. Both state what you want as you do this, for example for your relationship to remain strong. You may wish to keep the tied flowers somewhere like the bedroom to remind you of your love. Pick the place that feels right for both of you.
Seeds represent fertility and new beginnings. Though you can use any seed for this spell, an apple seed has strong connections with magic due to its Pagan associations: when an apple is cut horizontally it reveals a five-pointed star, symbolising the five elements, which the Pagans revere.
■ Write down the name of your partner on a piece of pink paper. Bury it in a plant pot with an apple seed, keeping your intent clear in your mind as you do so. Make sure to look after it well, for if the seed grows, this symbolises a potentially successful relationship that will hopefully flourish. Don’t despair if the seed doesn’t germinate – the relationship might work, it’ll just need more effort.
Tying knots in ribbons is a simple form of magic. At a Pagan wedding, known as a handfasting, it is traditional for the couple to have their hands tied together with a ribbon to symbolise their unity. This ribbon spell helps attract the right person into your life. A red ribbon represents masculine, a white ribbon feminine.
■ Weave the two ribbons together. As you weave, imagine your ideal partner being drawn to you. Try and avoid having any specific person in mind. Keep the tied ribbons in a place where you’ll remember their magic.
Magic for confidence
Sometimes all you need is a bit of confidence to talk to potential partners or ask that special someone out on a date. Every morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself how special you are. Don’t worry about boasting, just affirm to yourself all your good qualities. Say you are a lovable person who is confident and will be successful in love. Then, try this…
■ Preferably during a waxing Moon, place a yellow candle for communication and an orange candle for happiness and success on a table.
■ Using orange-fragranced oil, anoint both candles, starting from the top and bottom and working to the middle, keeping your intent in mind.
■ Lighting the yellow candle, say, ‘I am good at communicating with others’. If there’s a specific person you have in mind, say, ‘I have the confidence and ability to talk to (their name) and ask them on a date’.
■ Now light the orange candle, saying, ‘I am happy and confident, and will have success in my relationships’.
■ Extinguish both candles. Perform this spell whenever you need a confidence boost.
The Greek goddess Artemis could be described as an independent woman who valued her freedom. Try meditating upon her energy and carefree attitude.
■ To embrace your single status, try placing a light pink candle to represent self-love on a table. You may want to call upon Artemis to assist in your spell. When you feel her energy is present, light the candle and say, ‘I am what I am, so if fate won’t change, let me be happy as a single lady!’ Say it with lots of sass!
■ Extinguish the candle which can be relit anytime you want to be reminded that being single can be great and that you’re a contented and important person, partner or singleton.
Moving on spell
The ending of a relationship can undoubtedly leave you feeling low. Celebrating being single might be a great thing to do but when negativity lingers from what might have been a messy break-up, it can be hard to move on.
■ Preferably on a waning Moon, take something natural, like a rose that you feel could represent your former relationship, and take it to a river or stream – a fast flowing one is best – and tear it apart. Throw the pieces into the water, saying, ‘I cast away my former relationship with (their name); may the waters take away any negative energies so we can both move on with our lives’.
■ The water will wash away the negativity. While this might not resolve all your problems, it will hopefully clear away some of the pain so you can move on and start enjoying yourself.
Useful crystals 7 crystals for love, lust, confidence and luck…
CARNELIAN: Boosts sexual energy when placed on the base chakra at the end of the spine. Worn as jewellery it can help with overcoming shyness and building confidence
DIAMOND: Diamond is a strong crystal that represents indestructible love
GARNET: For increased sexual energy. This stone can also help open the heart chakra for increased self-confidence
RED JASPER: Hold this stone for grounding and allow it to help you gain insight into situations. It helps fuel passion between lovers and can send negativity back to its sender
ROSE QUARTZ: A stone of the heart and the planet Venus, it can help with issues involving self-love, friendship, love and romance. Hold a piece against your chest and feel its loving energies enter your heart
RUBY: Its deep red colour symbolises passion
TURQUOISE: This stone is a traditional gift between lovers. It also helps with stress and improves luck
Top four scents
Try using these essential oils for their aphrodisiac, uplifting and love-related qualities
JASMINE: Jasmine was used by women in Ancient Egypt who would bathe in jasmine and rose scented waters – jasmine being used to elicit passion
ROSE ABSOLUTE: Harnesses the power of the rose – one of the ultimate symbols of love. It is a calming scent and can help you relax when you’re feeling stressed. It can help with all matters concerning love
ROSEWOOD: Helps bring about feelings of wellbeing as well as possessing aphrodisiac properties
YLANG YLANG: Burn in an oil burner or use in a sensual massage to harness ylang-ylang’s aphrodisiac effects