Psychic and life coach Lisa Turner reveals one of the most powerful phrases in the English language that can help you improve your relationships today!
Let’s face it. Relationships are hard. Despite all our best intentions, regardless of how much we love the other person, they can still be troublesome. No matter how great your partnership, there are still times when you argue even though all you want is peace. Sometimes, when you really need to feel supported, it’s just not there. Or, you may be feeling insecure and need a little reassurance, but just don’t receive it. And then on top of that, there may be times when someone behaves in a way that upsets or annoys you.
It’s hard enough to speak up when it’s someone you love, and downright impossible when it’s your boss or mother-in-law. How do you get them to stop what they’re doing without getting upset yourself, or without alienating or angering them?
Here’s the answer. You utilise the most powerful phrase in the English language, which diffuses all the emotion out of the situation and is impossible to argue with. The next time someone behaves in a way you don’t like say, ‘I’m not OK with that’.
The reason it works so well is it has no judgement. You are not telling them they are wrong. You aren’t even saying there is anything wrong with their behaviour. What you are doing is simply stating that their action is not OK with you. Let’s say your partner comes home and tells you they’re planning on spending Saturday with their friends, when they’d previously promised to spend the day with you. Instead of sulking, ranting, or just feeling hurt and rejected silently, say, ‘I’m not OK with that’.
You can use this little phrase in any situation, and you can always soften it with an, “I’m sorry…” before hand if you want. Try it next time someone does or says something you’re not OK with. Just tell them.