Consciously we all want a healthy body, perfect relationships and an abundant life but somehow things don’t work out the way we planned. Pain and poverty gets in the way of our peace and happiness.
We begin to delay our peace by putting conditions on it:
“When I move from this place, I will find peace.”
“When I meet my perfect partner, my heart will be at peace”
“Only when I am earning x amount of money, my mind will be at peace”
Life keeps getting hard as we keep trying to take control of our lives. Peace and happiness becomes something in the future that one day we will experience. Each day brings pain of heartbreak when we watch the news, meet people around us or struggle to find peace with all the external challenges.
Because we are addicted to pain and suffering at some level that is destroying the inner peace without us even being aware that ‘life doesn’t have to be hard’ and peace is within. Once we release the addiction to pain and suffering, we can access inner peace.
Classically, these addictions show up in the form of sabotaging the relationship or procrastinating the task that will get us the next promotion.
Why are we so addicted to pain and poverty?
The answer to this is that many of us are not aware that our addiction to pain are usually programs that we learn from our parents, who learnt from their parents, ancestors and so on.
Science tells us that everything is energy which cannot be destroyed but changes form. It also contains information which has been researched in neuro science. It suggested that some experiences can influence subsequent generations.
Mice trained to fear a specific smell passed on their trained aversion to their descendants, which were then extremely sensitive and fearful of the same smell even though they never had encountered it, nor been trained to fear. This means that experience of our parents and grandparents markedly influence our own map of the world. Their experience of war, pain and suffering is still in our genetic memory.
As an awakening facilitator I have seen even weight loss issues are sometimes associated with ancestors being starved and the body remembers the starvation memory. This makes the body store all the food as it doesn’t want to ‘starve’ again.
The good news is…
we can use our minds to update our cellular memory with more inner peace by breaking the patterns of our ancestors and live in peace and harmony with all of life.
The following 3 steps will show you how to update your cellular memory so that you can access the inner peace.
Step 1: Awareness
Awareness is the key to everything. Our realities are based on our awareness. We make choices in life based on what information we have about that situation. We can’t solve what we are not aware of. Awareness allows us to address the issue that is between us and our inner peace.
In case of relationships, usually it’s our insecurities that destroys the inner peace. Awareness of this will empower us to work on our own insecurities instead of blaming our partners for making us unhappy.
So the question arises: “How do we raise our awareness?” and the answer is: “By asking questions”. Questions opens us up to reach for the answers that are locked in our cellular memories and the only way to open them up is to ask questions!
One of my favourite ways to describe this phenomenon is through the following story:
A little girl asked her mother why she chopped off the lobster’s tail before boiling it. Her mother told her that she didn’t really know why, but did it because that was what her mother used to do. When the girl asked her grandmother why she used to chop off the lobster’s tail, her grandmother shrugged and said that there must be a good reason for it because her mother did it that way. When the girl asked her great-grandmother why she chopped off the lobster’s tail, the elderly lady was baffled and said, ‘Don’t tell me they’re still doing that! My pan was too small, so I had to cut off the tail to squeeze it all in.’
Start questioning the validity of your reality by asking questions! Ask yourself when you are in pain, “Where is this coming from?” or “Whose pain am I living?”
You will be surprised at the thoughts that will come into your awareness as a result of these questions.
Quantum physics tells us that an act of observing an event changes the results. This means that awareness is the basis of all change! As soon as we become aware of our behaviour we have a choice to change it. And you can become more aware with a simple exercise.
Step 2: Forgiveness
Awareness brings up all those events and memories from the ‘collective unconscious’ (our personal and genetic memory store house) that has been blocking our inner peace.
Forgiveness is the only thing that sets us free from those memories so that we can be at peace at all times regardless of what is happening outside of us.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean we are weak. It only means we are strong enough to let go of the past for a more fulfilling present. When we resent someone, we are holding a burning coal in our hands and hoping that it will burn the other person.
A forgiveness process will help you forgive and let go of all that is destroying your inner peace.
Step 3: Appreciation
Forgiveness releases all the pain and suffering. Appreciation enhances all the blessings we are experiencing in life.
What we appreciate, appreciates! In order to gain inner peace in our life, we must start appreciating what we currently have in our lives.
Appreciation also helps us to stay clear of jealousy and comparison which destroys inner peace. Jealousy only means counting other people’s blessing instead of our own. Keeping an appreciation journal will make sure you maintain the inner peace.
Each night just before you go to bed. make a list of 10 things you appreciated in your day.
After writing the things, imagine in your mind’s eye, there is a stage and on that stage are all those people who contributed positively in your day.
Say to them: “I thank and appreciate each and everyone of you for contributing towards my day. May you all receive my blessing and appreciation”
“ I Bless my life with peace”
The GOOD NEWS:
The more you follow these steps on a day to day basis, the more your life will become full of ease and you will have greater inner peace at all times.