Finding ‘the one’ is something we’re all longing for, right? So why is it that when you finally meet someone you swear the stars have placed on your path it can sometimes backfire in a cosmic way? Aletheia Luna and Don Mateo Sol of lonerwolf.com explain the sometimes painful, but always beautiful, stages of a relationship with your twin flame and how to come out the other side with an even stronger bond
The love experienced between twin flames is like holy fire: it burns you to ashes, but it also forges you into a new creature, like a Phoenix emerging out of the dust.
1 Yearning for ‘The One’
In this preliminary stage you have spent your entire life pining for The One. You have a strange sensation that someone is out there but you don’t quite know where or when they will appear in your life. Although you ache for your twin flame, you have a feeling they will appear to you at some point.
This time is also spent preparing, on an unconscious level, for their arrival. In many instances, you will learn how to love yourself before you meet your twin. For others, this stage of preparation involves spiritual development and self-awareness.
2 A quick glimpse
At some point, you will have a brief glimpse of your twin flame. Whether this is through a dream or a real life meeting, suddenly they can be sensed. The result is profound. Wonder, joy, anxiety and intoxication quickly ensue. You don’t know what it is exactly, but this person is extremely special. You may sense that they will play an immensely important role in your life – even before you know them properly.
3 Falling in love
When you fall for this person, you will fall very, very hard. The impact will knock the breath right out of you. In fact, as you get to know your twin flame better, you will fall more and more deeply in love with them. As a result, you’ll find it hard to stand with two feet on the ground. You may even try to resist the attraction, but eventually you’ll accept the reality that you’re deeply and madly in love.
4 The fairytale is here
As both of you eventually make your feelings known and enter into a relationship, life will feel like a fairytale. Your relationship with them will be perfect in every possible way. It will seem as though your twin flame fulfils every single need you have and everything you ever possibly wanted. This taste of paradise is what the matured twin flame relationship looks like after the next few stages of turmoil.
5 Outer turmoil and inner purging
In this stage there can be trouble in paradise as egos flare up. While our twin flames share and mirror our deepest needs, desires and dreams, they also tend to mirror our shadow selves. For example, if you are an emotionally repressed person, your twin flame will likely be emotionally explosive. If you tend to be arrogant, your twin flame will most likely be uncertain and quiet.
While all the arguing and fighting in this stage may seem disastrous, the truth is that it is necessary for our growth. Without being provoked, without seeing ourselves for who we really are, we live in illusion and fail to grow soulfully.
6 The run and chase
As tensions mount it is common for one partner (or sometimes both) to emotionally or physically withdraw and run away, and another to pursue in a game of cat and mouse. Sometimes this involves emotional shut down and silent treatment. At other times this involves physical separation, and in extreme cases, the permanent termination of the relationship. While some relationships last and are strengthened, others crumble to pieces.
7 Surrender and dissolution
Once the shadow of your relationship has been revealed, you may experience a period of surrender. After so much anguish you both begin to open up about your wounds and insecurities. It is common to experience a lot of ego dissolution and soulful expansion. As the ego relaxes, you begin to learn how to work through your differences – the maturity of your relationship deepens and thus strengthens.
8 You are one
As the problems in your relationship become easier to deal with, you will enter a period of soul reunion. As the ego continues to relax, virtues such as forgiveness, understanding, empathy and patience are gained. The more you both work through each issue that comes your way vigilantly, the more you experience the sensation of oneness. This is a true miracle.
About the authors
Aletheia Luna is the co-founder, editor and author of popular spiritual website LonerWolf.com As a transformational mentor and holistic writer, she has helped to people on their paths of self-acceptance and wholeness. You can follow her work and private updates on Facebook.
Don Mateo Sol is the author and co-founder of popular spiritual website LonerWolf.com. As a shamanic practitioner, teacher and soul guide, Sol has helped to lead thousands of people throughout the world on their journeys of self-discovery, healing and wholeness. You can follow Sol’s work on Facebook