The relationship ended, you packed their bags and waved them goodbye, but here you are months afterwards still pining for your former flame. Even if you know in your heart that you parted for a good reason and that it’s better to move on, something pulls your thoughts back to them over and over again. Sound familiar? White witch Tudorbeth explains how to release this negative connection with a simple ritual, so you can invite new love into your life
Wiccans believe that everything is connected, like a huge magical cobweb with strands of silk stretching throughout time and space. Imagine clear beams of light linking you to other people, animals, plants and the planet as a whole. Through these cords energy flows, but sometimes a knot can form causing a block – this is a negative attachment and is what stops you moving on from your ex partner.
To unwind any knots and release an old lover from your life for good, you can try this binding ritual. For it to work, you will need to perform it with kindness in your heart.
You will need:
- A photo of your ex
- A photo of yourself
- Black cord
- A pair of scissors
- 1 black candle
- 1 white candle
1 Take a bath in salt water and relax. When you are ready, dry yourself but don’t get dressed as you need to perform this ritual naked.
2 Light the candles and raise your arms in the air. You are opening up and allowing magic to flow into you. Say whatever is in your heart and ask the universe to bear witness to this ceremony. You may like to ask for extra strength to cut this attachment to your ex.
3 Taking the photo of yourself, wrap the cord around it three times. Unwind 20cm of cord from your photo and tie a knot in the centre. Then unravel another 20cm and wrap it around the photo of your old lover, so that both photos are attached. Leave the cord on the spool.
4 Place the connected photos between the candles. Focus on the knot in the centre and notice any feelings rising in you. Then cleanse the scissors through the flame of the black candle while saying:
“Fire burns. Smoke cleanse. This relationship will now end”
Then cut the knot in the middle as you chant:
“I cut the tie between you and I. No more connected. From each other we are now free, no more negativity. We are ended. So mote it be”
5 Taking your photo, bind it by wrapping the thread around your photo three times while saying:
“I bind myself, I bind myself, I bind myself. Three times three. Stay away from thee. So mote it be”
6 Next you need to bind your ex. Wind the thread around their photo as you chant:
“I bind you (name). I bind you (name). I bind you (name). So mote is be”
7 Now place your photo under the white candle and the other photo by the black candle. Meditate on the flame for a few minutes, imagining yourself happy and free. Next, bring your ex into your mind’s eye and picture them living peacefully. This is part of the process of letting go. Allow a strength of energy from the earth rise up inside you, flowing through your body and out through your head, onwards and upwards towards the sky.
About the author
Tudorbeth is a hereditary practioner of the Craft. She comes from several generations of practioners of Witchcraft and learnt the practical side of magic from her father and the esoteric side from her mother. The rules and gifts of herb lore, scrying, healing, tasseomancy, numerology and candle magic all feature in her books. Tudorbeth has written many books on witchcraft including the series Magic in the City.