Hypnotherapist and meditation teacher Camilla Sacre-Dallerup discusses the positive ways that we can improve our own relationships and situations, by accepting responsibility for our lives.
It all starts with you
The biggest thing for anyone to accept is to know you are responsible for your own actions. Any ‘problems’ are not ‘out there’ but within you. When situations or people are upsetting you, it can be difficult to accept this truth but you have to realise that you cannot change other people, only yourself. By doing so, you automatically improve relationships and situations anyway – the inner affects the outer. Leading by example is a much more powerful and helpful way to live.
Take, for example, a situation with a colleague where you keep locking horns with one another. The more you misunderstand each other and don’t get on, the more it happens, and you start to resent the person and actually start to expect that each time you interact with them something it will be negative experience. In such a case, how can anything positive ever come of that? Most situations can be solved with a little understanding into the other person’s situation, and with good communication.
Take responsibility for your actions
Thing about how you can turn a situation around? Write it down. It could take a lot of patience on your behalf in the beginning. Maybe suggest to the other person that you grab a coffee and get to know him/her outside the work environment; you may find this person has some personal issues they bring to the office.
They could be dealing with something difficult and emotional at home; just knowing this allows you to view their behaviour in a new light, with more compassion; perhaps they are trying their best but not coping very well. Hopefully, by calming the situation, starting afresh, you will both learn how to communicate with each other in a different way. Then, expect only harmonious interactions with them. Sometime using an affirmation like, ‘I work in a harmonious office with great colleagues’, can help if you repeat it everyday for a while.
I believe we are sent challenges so we can grow; so whatever is going on for you, see it as an opportunity to learn and deal with a situation in a new and exciting way.
About the author
Although she may be well-known as a professional dancer on Strictly Come Dancing, Camilla Sacre-Dallerup is a trained NLP practitioner, life coach and hypnotist, who is dedicated to enhancing the lives of others, helping them to achieve the success they deserve.