We have nine brilliant ways you can rid your love life of toxicity and bad vibes!
HAVE A DRAMA DETOX
“Difficult relationships and challenging circumstances all come down to one thing: drama,” says intuitive healer Doreen Virtue. “Being pessimistic is a misguided way of shielding ourselves from future disappointments with loved ones.” To regain your optimism and avoid unnecessary problems, try Doreen’s simple steps:
1 Avoid people who are chronically negative. Instead, initiate friendships with people who are consciously improving their life. Stick with friends who are accomplishing their dreams.
2 Journalling about your feelings can help when you want to lash out and argue with those closest to you. You can always throw out what you’ve written afterwards.
3 Cut down on your exposure to external stressers such as alcohol, junk food, aggressive music and social media.
4 Overreacting to situations can annoy other people, so if you are a bit of a drama queen, take up exercise to discharge some of your energy in a healthy way.
SEND AN ANGEL MESSAGE
If you want to strengthen a bond with a relative, ask Archangel Raphael to bless them: Close your eyes, relax, and breathe. Imagine that you are surrounded with healing energy. Now say, ‘Raphael, please send your loving vibrations to (say the name of your loved one). I ask that we are now bound together in your peaceful embrace’.
GIVE TO RECEIVE
According to metaphysical authors and healers, sharing and taking are energetically the same. “The more you give, the more you will receive,” says Deepak Chopra. “Anything that is of value in life multiplies when you share it with others. If you want joy, give happiness to others. If love is what you seek, offer affection to those around you.”
TRY HOME HOMOEOPATHY
To neutralise the energy of your house after an argument, mix a few drops of Bach Originals Flower Remedies (hollandandbarrett.co.uk) with water and pour in a spray bottle. You can dispel a tense atmosphere by misting the room with your solution while imagining a warm light filling the space. To eliminate intolerance, opt for Beech, £6.99, and to encourage compassion and empathy, go for Heather, £6.99.
ASK YOUR HEART TO ANSWER
To be happy with a new lover usually takes a bit of adjustment, so before diving into a full on romance or dismissing it after a few dates, ask yourself these questions from self-help expert Lois Blyth:
Are you really ready to be committed?
What are you ready to build with this person?
Can you appreciate his/her differences?
Do you share their outlook on life?
Are the two of you together greater than you are apart?
MAKE A LOVE POTION
Want to get in the mood for passion? Fix your sweetheart a mug of this aphrodisiac tea and they’ll be yours in no time!
Mix together 1 pinch of rosemary, thyme, nutmeg, with 3 fresh mint leaves, 2 teaspoons of black tea leaves, 3 rose petals and the zest of half a lemon.
Pour over boiling water and let it brew in a teapot.
Sweeten with a generous spoonful of honey.
LET GO OF ANGER
Holding on to resentments is a sure-fire way of blocking off your heart from fulfilling relationships. It might seem impossible to let go of anger (especially if you’re in the right!), but learning to forgive is a gift you give to yourself. The Sedona Method is an emotional-release therapy that can help. Ask yourself these questions to start the process: Can I let it go? Will I let it go? When will I let it go?
You and your partner are fine as you are – yes, really! – according to couple counsellor and co-author of Succulent Wild Love (£16, New World Library) Dr John Waddell. If you can train yourself to view your lover without judgement, your love will deepen. Dr John says, “Your role is not to determine what is right or wrong with them, but what is right for you, and so you must meet your own needs first. You can have preferences and let your partner know what they are, but try not to criticise if they don’t do everything you want. They shouldn’t have to change to make you feel good.”
WEAR A SENSUAL SCENT
Perfumers and aromatherapists both agree that when it comes to re-igniting romance, divine fragrances do wonders. Here are the top three essential oils for getting back that spark:
Jasmine – fresh, stimulating, rich and exotic. This note is sacred to Kama, the Hindu love god.
Rose – rich, floral and cooling. It’s thought to open the heart chakra and is sacred to the goddess Aphrodite.
Vanilla – sweet, heady and sexy. Wear vanilla if you want to seduce your partner.