When life becomes too much and you feel like your heart is in pieces, you can recover and heal with even more wisdom and strength than you could ever imagine. Sheila Kadeer shows you how to keep going and speed up the painful process
When trauma strikes we can feel like giving up. It’s a dark place and you may feel lonely, afraid and hurt. Death of a loved one, divorce, relationship break down and job loss are all traumatic events. If you are normally a strong person; always helping others, giving your kindness and love to anyone in need, then when something happens to your world you may find your ‘trauma bucket’ overflows.
I get that you want to be of service to others, but when you have your own stuff to deal with it can all get too much. You end up feeling overwhelmed, depressed and hopeless. I know because I have been there. Your heart hurts with all the grief, sadness or shame of your own personal trauma. You find day-to-day living difficult and want to shut yourself off from the world. You cry at the drop of a hat, you get anxious and shake whenever you have to talk about what has happened to you, you get that sick feeling in your stomach.
Healing takes time but you can speed the process up by following my top tips for mending your heart:
It’s OK to grieve, feel shame, hurt, guilt, sadness or whatever the emotion is you are feeling. Accept and own your emotions. They are part of you and need an outlet, you are human after all. We are here to learn valuable life lessons and, yes, some are going to be hard but we have to take responsibility. You have the choice to make things better or stay feeling stuck and hurt. What are you going to do?
Create your strategy for healing your heart. Commit to it every day and say yes to feeling better. When I have an emotion coming up I do this exercise to comfort myself:
Feel the emotion. Feel where it is sitting in your body. Sense what colour that emotion is. I now think of the colour I want in my body to replace the colour of the emotion. Pick a colour that feels empowering to you. Imagine it coming in from the top of your head and filling the space where the emotion was. Watch it spread out into your entire body, pushing its way out into your aura. Really feel this new empowering colour in your heart space. Breathe it in and breathe it out all around you.
OK let’s talk about what your strategy could include to get you on the path to a healed heart.
Get out in nature
Go for a walk every day and appreciate the beauty around you. Being out in nature will help ground you, as well as being good exercise. Getting exercise will boost serotonin, endorphins and other feel-good chemicals.
Make sure you get enough sleep
Get into a bedtime routine. Have a warm bath with essential oils. Ylang ylang, geranium and sandalwood blended together would be perfect. Light some candles. Lie back with your hands on your heart. You may want to hold a rose quartz crystal and say an affirmation to yourself
“I am healthy, happy and open to miracles. Universe please guide me on my journey”
Eat healthy food
Make sure your body is getting enough nutrition. Emotions can trigger us to eat certain types of food. Recognise when you are eating emotionally. A diary is a good idea to note down how you are feeling when you crave that certain food.
Relax your mind and body
Use relaxation techniques such as meditation, yoga or breathing exercises to help you release stress and tension.
Do something for fun
Get creative, let your inner child out to play. Go to a fun class, laugh, smile, do whatever makes your heart sing.
About the Author
Sheila Kadeer also known as The Psychic Detective is a psychic, author, transformational coach and teacher.