Ohh… break ups. They’re harrowing, gut-wrenching and even the invention of water-proof mascara provides little relief to those with a heart in pieces. But, as well as a LOT of bubble baths, ice-cream and wailing, your faery friends can provide comfort and help ignite love and light back into your life. Here, friend to the fey folk Lucy Cavendish explains just how to work with them for quicker-than-you’d-expect results
Faeries are able to help us heal from all kinds of challenges, and one of the most wonderful ways they can intervene is through the healing of our fragile human hearts.
In the faery realm, love is respected and revered. You may be surprised to know that faeries love us – they find humans, our short and passionate lives, fascinating. They can become our allies, and with their help, we can heal once again and be ready for new adventures with open, trusting hearts.
1 They send you signs
Faeries ‘see’ situations very differently to humans, so why not ask them to share a message from nature. For example, a butterfly is a message from them asking you to transform your feelings and fly free from the pain you may be feeling. A snail is a message asking you to slow down, to take your time and to make your own way.
Faeries send signs through nature – so ask them for a message, then watch, listen and open your heart
2 They lift feelings of shame
After a relationship breakdown, we experience guilt and shame. Faeries can lift this away from us, showing us that there is another, more magical way of understanding relationships. Connect with the faery, focus on your sacral area (the chakra above the base, below the solar plexus) and ask them to clear any guilt or shame around your desires. You may feel a soft, fluttering energy as they help clear any of painful critical feelings of self-judgement.
3 They help to unearth you soul’s true loves
Ask the faery King, Gwynn Ap Nudd, to help you to connect with a partner who will be protective, encouraging, and a considerate and skilled lover, somebody joyous and open with affection. Ask him also to bring you a faithful lover, as faeries often do not have the same kind of conditions or expectations around relationships.
4 They can lift the dreadful ache of broken hearts
Go to a natural place you love -simply a tree or a garden where flowers often bloom – and ask for the faeries to help lift away the heaviness placed there. Focus on your heart and the solar plexus chakras for this exercise. See the faeries within the flowers come forward and begin to cleanse and clear the heart of any debris. They can also shine a powerful light into your heart which will break up any residue that lingers from a hurtful relationship.
5 They attract good-hearted companions
Faerie can be very social, so by calling to them and asking for their assistance in finding wonderful relationships you will find that friendships that hurt can fall away, and you will enjoy invitations to events with like-minded friends who will be kind, understanding and bring laughter to you.
6 They help you to laugh again
Faeries adore the sound of human laughter, and so if you ask for them to show you the humour and delight in even the darkest of days, little moments of brightness will begin to help you to heal. Broken hearts often bring us into places where we find no good in others; the faeries will show you how to laugh and see the beauty of the world again!
7 They show you how relationships should be
Faeries help you to understand that relationships, while they can be difficult and challenging, should not be unkind, abusive or unbalanced. The faerie can help you to see your own worth and to respect yourself, your needs, your dreams.
8 They can help to restore your power
They love you to shine and to be bright with self-love, and if you ask for their assistance – and offer them a little of your own energy – you will find that you’ll begin to feel empowered and confident once again! Your broken heart will soon be a memory!
9 They free you from negativity
Faeries are very skilled at challenging and changing negative patterns within humans – so if you ask for their assistance, they will help you to see that certain beliefs you have – beliefs that can be inherited from our families and from our cultures – are not the truth. They can free us from these patterns, and this can help all of us to begin to live within the truth of our own souls.
10 Most importantly of all, they can help you to love yourself
I’m talking deep and abiding love, that will see you through many a troubled time.
Let them show you ways to love yourself – as they love you – each day. Offer them your love in return and you will soon find the sun is shining from within your heart, which will be healed, and stronger in the places that were once wounded.
Shine, beautiful human child, and know the faeries will always love you!
About the author
Lucy Cavendish is a Witch and Author who travels the world in a quest for magick, and lives her life with a deep belief that your lifetime is a blessing, and that you have special gifts. She is especially connected to the realm of the fae – who she loves deeply. To connect with her and her work, please visit