…but Emma Mildon will! Here she discusses why you need to switch off your smart phone, tidy away your tablets and lay off your laptop
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How many of you have diagnosed yourself with rare and exotic illnesses based on NHS Direct’s symptom checker? The majority of us have unearthed the meaning of life from a Buzzfeed quiz or found out that if we were a mythical creature we’d be a wood forest pixie. We’ve tried to find answers about what really happens when we die and quite simply done what all our ancestors spent their lifetime’s doing: soul searching, learning, expanding and enlightening ourselves one search at a time… Only nowadays we have a different means of doing so.
You see, you and I have a spirit guide in common. This mutual guru is collective acquaintance and the knower of all. Sussed who this united knowledge master is yet? Google, of course!
Did you know, last year thousands of people ran a search asking how to be spiritual? But the thing is, you can’t learn this from a search engine. So let’s take it back to the way things were done long before the word of G-to-the-oogle meant anything, and reconnect with our organic spirituality. This brings us nicely onto the first thing that this search engine won’t teach you about said topic…
Bear with me because I totally get how ironic this is. The worldwide web, turn internet, turn www., means we are constantly ‘on the line’, plugged into social feeds, emails and chats that are said to ‘connect’ us. And yet the world has never been more disconnected… Hear me out.
A connection is a mutual parting of energy. It’s that moment, if only for a second, you share a connection at a soul-felt level: eyes connected, listening, feeling and embracing the other person’s energy, mutuality soaking up the good vibes. I think of it this way: much like you plug your smart phone into a socket to recharge it, a smile at a stranger recharges your soul. Socket for smart phone; smile for soul. An input and an output of energy. Got it? That is real connection. Offline. Ironic, ha!
Make a point of doing less scrolling and more searching – in the real world! You will trip up, turn down wrong roads, get lost, find yourself and then get lost again. The key is to embrace the experimental stage and, while it is definitely helpful to learn from others trial and errors online (aka. do not wear spit through leggings to yoga class), working out what resonates with you personally is going to be crucial to unearthing new dimensions to yourself and your spirituality.
Paper maps, remember those? Ahh, the lost art of planning a trip. A modern-day soul search consists of a visa card and a smart phone. And while I will be the first to admit I love the convenience of having a Google map, a bank and a flight booker at my fingertips, it makes for the ability to ‘get lost’ near impossible, it also makes the mystery of the unknown distinct and that forgotten concept of being ‘off the grid’ pretty unattainable. You can always be found, checked in, liked, commented on and tagged into life. So I ask this of anyone who owns a smart phone, take less selfies and take in more views.
Have you ever finished reading an online article and muttered the words ‘thank you’ in gratitude for the wisdom the writer imparted? I didn’t think so. You are welcome by the way.
We all fall victim to the selfish, instant, download, share and pass it on of ungrateful wisdom, losing the connection with the true source, diluting the ability to pass on a compliment, a life-changing experience or a soul-sparking ‘a-ha’ moment from reading someone’s spiritual teachings or experiences. So (not to sound like your spiritual mother) take time to stop and say thank you. Post, comment or give a shout out to the author or blog that is your go-to for spiritual wisdom, advice or a pick me up. You’ll be surprised at how grateful the recipient is for how thankful you are – see the ripple?
#5 Embracing the unknown
Rumi said ‘The wound is where the light enters us’. Those moments when you keep pulling guidance cards for reassurance, find yourself huddled over a crystal ball seeking answers to your future, or (cough, cough, dare I say it) Googling ‘How to cure my crap life’ are the reinvention, lotus-blossoming, angel-harp-choir-encouraging situations that define you and you accept these moments for good and for bad. Take the leap and totally welcome the unknown. Next stop – awesome.
#6 Light council
Spiritual evolution is fuelled by what I call a ‘Light Council’, a group of people you choose to surround yourself with to guide you. Think of yourself as the CEO of you.com. You are in charge of appointing the right people for the job, the mentor, the coach, the counsellor, the cheerleader. These people are real, not digital. Think about those who inspire, teach and guide you and make a point of spending more time in their physical presence. Dedicate special moments to a handful of people who aid and support your spiritual growth, and give less energy to those who take from it.
This is your soul speaking: ‘I feel neglected, like you never have time just for me any more. We use to hang! I miss you’. Don’t you think you owe it to yourself to spend some quality time drinking down lots of self-love, eating up lots of wisdom and digesting all that wonderful energy you give out to everyone and everything else but yourself?
Your soul deserves so much more respect and just as much of your attention. The next time your phone calls, consider it to be your soul calling…
#8 Ego vs spirit vs static
What does the wise guide inside you sound like? The voice you should be taking direction from isn’t the one in your head; it should be your soul source, your higher self, your guide. Whatever you label it, listen to it. Letting Googled voices override your wise guide can be the equivalent to committing spiritual suicide. So every time you are tempted to hit enter on the search bar, remember you are muting your higher self; try searching within instead.
#9 Letting Go
Truthfully, have you ever looked up an ex partner, former friend or colleague online? Don’t worry, you are not alone. The ability to peek into the window of our past is sometimes too tempting, making the art of letting go hard!
Old school spirituality would have let you hit the delete button on relationships and situations that no longer served you and move on free of any haunting digital emotional baggage. Thus, leaving the willpower in our hands to mentally hit the delete button so we are not tempting to browse our past.
#10 Being present
Think about how many minutes, hours or even days of your life have been wasted sitting on your smart phone or scrolling deeper into a Google hole of time wastage. It all begins with you innocently looking something up Before long you stumble across a funny cat video, then the next minute you check the clock and you have watched the equivalent to the whole directors cut addition of Titanic worth of cute kitty YouTube clips. Meanwhile your soulmate walked pass and checked you out, heck Ryan Gosling probably walked by but there you were, lost in your work emails, Facebook newsfeed or those oh-so cute kitten pics. Look at what’s going on around you, live in the present, be in the moment, fully.
About the author
Emma Mildon is known as a ‘spiritual personal assistant’, aka PA for the soul. She prides herself on having tried and tested many spiritual avenues and is now focused on gifting her knowledge and experience to others, in order to help them develop and grow through her columns and book, The Soul Searchers Handbook.